I swear this guy I'm talking to is purposely playing hard to get. Normally guys don't... But his signals are so sporadic and weird that none of my friends can tell me what to do with him anymore. Of course they tell me to move on since they think I'm gorgeous and can get any guy, but I really like this guy... And I keep trying only for him to give me so much thread and then snap it back. He isn't a player or doesn't talks to a lot of girls.. He's reserved, in band and totally into school (like me) and I don't think girls go after him a lot. I thought maybe he's playing mind games with me to make me like him more? Like he will ignore me for a week and then bounce back like nothing happened. Or seeing me once a week seems big to him? Yet he never messages me, even when I message him. I don't get it.
Guys, quick input: do you play games with girls that you think are out of your league to get them to like you more?
What Guys Said 2
I wouldn't bother guys that are playing games with you, move on quickly, here is why?
Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention. This quote has stuck with me ever since I heard my coworker speak the words. Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention – it just naturally exists, as it is, in confidence and boldness.
Remember this the next time you chase someone you think you love. Remember this the next time you feel as if you need to compete for the attention of someone you admire. Generationally speaking, we often feel the need to prove ourselves to the heart we regard. We often feel the need to change ourselves to better suit their needs, we often wonder if we are exactly what they are looking for, or if they have other options. I have heard the sentiment many times over, I have seen it dissect beautiful moments and sensationalize less than beautiful relationships. Stop the “If onlys” and the “But maybes.” Trust me when I say that those do not exist within the boundaries of the love you want. They only exist within the reality of the love you chase.
The most awe-inspiring person I ever had the privilege of loving planted his feet firmly in front of me and said “This is what I want.” There was courage, transparency. There was declaration.
There was no insecurity, there was no need to compare myself to others or compete. The most awe-inspiring person I ever had the privilege of loving chose me every single day, and I chose him. When that wasn’t the case, we parted ways. We didn’t drag it out, we didn’t try to convince the other. We didn’t feel the need to grip, and chase something that did not fulfill us or inspire us. It was natural, and organic, and it allowed for me to feel deeply and confidently. That is the kind of love you want.1
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Yeah he is playing hard to get. Maybe he doesn't want to fall for you hard since your attractive. So he keeps his feelings and emotions in check. Maybe he also lacks dating experience so that would explain part of his weird behavior. I think part of you likes him because he gives you a big challenge.1
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