Do people often get back together after breaking up?

I never dated much when I was younger. I went on dates with 5 women before meeting my ex wife, and I was with her for 25 years. I never had a girlfriend.
So fast forward 25 years. After a divorce I didn't want I find myself dating for basically the first time in my life. I tried to date too soon and it really didn't work out. but I learned a lot and have really slowed down. I just ended an 8 month relationship. We broke up at the 3 month period for a week. She didn't like that I wanted more from her. So I moved ahead at that point and had set a date with someone that I had seen previously. We never really broke up, we just drifted apart. But the woman I had been with almost made it seem like it is normal to break up during a fight and just get back together. I explained that I won't break up with someone unless I know 100% that there is no way I would spend the rest of my life with them. Once I know that, there is no point going forward. I have gone to a therapist probably a total of 10 years over the last 24. So I understand most of the reasons behind certain behavior. I also go over things over and over, backward and forward, inside out and every which way 1000's of times before I make that kind of decision. So for me, there is never a reason to go back with someone.
Comments by a few of the women I dated make me think that many people do that. They break up instead of talking things through, then figure they will get back together when the work it out. Seems to me this is such a huge red flag, that alone would make me not want to get back together with them. Seems to me those types are the ones most likely to want a divorce without trying to work things out.
But maybe this is a lot more common then I think. ?
I would never operate this way but was interested if a lot of people really do break up and get back together multiple times with the same person.


Most Helpful Girl

  • Some do some dont. Personally i dont because when i get to that point it means that is it. It means i try really hard to make it work. If i break up i break up.
    Plus ex is ex for a reason so moving on is the best solution sometimes.

    • np, only 2 women replied and the other had a super high MHO already. I thought I would help out. I almost never give it to guys since and I never give it to anyone that posts as anonymous.

What Girls Said 1

  • I know people who have, and it rarelty works out.

    . Personally, I would never go back to an ex, simply because i come out of the relationship as a different person to the one who i was when it first started. Plus, I'd never stumble over something behind me.


What Guys Said 2

  • I believe I read that as many as 50% of long term relationships had a breakup at some point.
    It has to do with the reason why breakups occur.

    Surprisingly, people break up due to stupid reasons quite often.

  • Did you ever dated an Asian women?

    • Never. I am not attracted to them. and what does that have to do with the question?