Do people treat all of their lovers the same?

I just had to break up with my boyfriend a few minutes ago. It hurts me so bad but I'm just trying to look out for myself. (I'm having his child in a month). No matter how much I show that I love him he seems ungrateful. I want him to see me as a future wife or someone he wants to spend his life with. I am supportive, I cook, I clean and so much more. He always has an issue with me and he nags at everything that I do. I get the impression that he holds no interest in me. I feel like he wants a different woman in his life because he wants constant change from me to be his ideal woman but no matter what, he remains unhappy with me. I was wondering when he does find his ideal woman, will he treat her a lot better than me just because she's perfect for him? Or will he always be stuck in his ways as an ungrateful man?


Most Helpful Guy

  • I'd treat my partner as I would any partner I would have, and I intend to have only one.

    • A good relationship is based off a fundamental framework of shared belief's, the greater your beliefs, the better the relationship.

      I'd recommend you work to improve yourself as a person and continue an effort into finding people who share the way you see the world, and who would want to share the world with you.

      Especially in the context of romantic relationships.

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    • Glad to help anytime, good luck with everything. :)

    • Thank u

Most Helpful Girl

  • Do you enter into relationships trying to do all those things for the guy, to "please" him, before he asks? Because you may be presenting yourself as a doormat, and as an easy person who gives, rather than someone who asks for something, and clearly defines their personal boundaries and expectations. If you don't want to be treated poorly, perhaps don't allow someone to? Ending that relationship was a good step for you, just continue to reflect on your own behaviour, and try not to compromise yourself too much.


What Guys Said 2

  • I suppose some people don't change.
    Others learn. I realized very late that I had lacked empathy until I was 20. I would pardon things girlfriends did to me, without asking myself or them why it happened. I just shrugged and pardoned, copying the way my dad behaved. I should have had some really deep and kind conversations with them instead, inquiring into their state of mind which lead them to do it. And then after my last break up I met a girl who didn't need to be interrogated but was very open. We're still happy together.

    Shutting up and suffering doesn't help.
    Shrugging and pardoning doesn't help.
    Fighting is even worse.
    The keywords are GOODWILL and COMMUNICATION.
    I hope this helps.

    • Thank you for your advice. We tried to make communication happen but it always ended up in some type of mind game or something. I guess we are just not for each other... It hurts that he can go so long without talking to me now. It's killing me that I haven't talked to him lately. I'm glad that you learned and grew. God bless your relationship.

  • nope

    anyway, a break up should happens once or a coupel of times max. it damages the relationship the more time you use it.


What Girls Said 1

  • He doesn't like you. You think he ungrateful? well I think that u are selfish because your only thinking of yourself not of him? And yes I heard that you will change for him but it won't cut it! He feels what he feels and you can't force love. You seems a bit strange because you are so desperate and okay to change! You need to stand your ground because it appears you are losing respect for yourself... you will soon realize it... or not
    I think you should leave and seek some therapy!