Long story short so that I don't bore you, my boyfriend of 1 yr had all of his email passwords banks password under his ex's name. Ok... He changed them so my name which it was stupid but whatever, he kept an email he had with his name and her bday digits, so I asked why. We got into a fight so he changed the email to his name, and for some reason that bothered me and hurt my feelings. Because I am Not looking at the emails I am looking at what's behind it. The meaning of it. He thought of her and him when he created that. And now he changes it to him. Like I didn't expect for him to put anything adding us but somehow this hurt my feelings. I don't know if this is stupid or not but I want your honesty since this is why we are here. I'm looking at the thought behind it. Not "hung up on an email" please give me an advice
Most Helpful Guy
This is a total non issue. You are putting way more thought into his email account password than he did. It sounds like you are looking for a reason to start a fight. If you like him, then stop pushing him away, by over thinking every little detail. That is coming across as really controlling. To him, they were no longer his ex's bday digits. It was just an email address that he didn't want to bother changing.
You are demanding too much, and not even letting him know what you expect from you. You even got your way, and are still upset. After all he changed it, which is what you wanted. So why does that still hurt you? Is it because it isn't your bday he is now using? You taught him it was a mistake to use his girlfriends bday so it only makes sense he wouldn't use it again. I am more worried that he sounds overly clingy for adding your name on his stuff after only dating for one year.1
Most Helpful Girl
sorry you feel this way... prehaps my story can make you feel better. my boyfriend of 14 months. told me so much aobu this ex. girlfriend. it is making me feel very insecure.
he also has stuff from his ex. wife (who he cheated on to be with that ex. girlfriend.) yet still has lots lots of ex. wifes stuff. so can you explain that?
some men don't like to throw out stuff, it was part of their past.
you are with him now (i try to tell myself that as well)
but i understand you. its hard0