In my experience with online dating you usually talk for a few days online, trade phone numbers talk for a few more days and then just fall off the face of the planet without ever meeting in person. What's the point of online dating if you don't actually have any intention of ever meeting anyone in person?
That sort of behavior is why I stayed away from free online dating sites.
When I was looking for new relationship after my first marriage ended in divorce, I decided to join eHarmony. I chose eHarmony for two reasons:
1) They focused on putting together compatible matches.
2) It was a paid site. That meant that the women I was matched with had to pay too. Money makes many people more serious. Nobody pays $150 just to fuck around.
Anyway, I chose a 1 year membership as that was the best deal and I wanted to commit to the process the eHarmony way.
Seven months later, I was matched with a woman I would one day marry. @GraySailorsBride and I have been happily married for 9 years as of June of this year. I love her as much today as the day we were wed. As far as I'm concerned, our honeymoon phase is still going strong.
I think a lot of people use it as a way to feel like they have the support and 'love' of someone else, minus all the possible problems, stress, and responsibilities that face to face relationships can bring. Kind of like a more convenient alternative, another way to feel like you belong?
So true, I can't get anyone to talk for more then a few days then they talk to someone else, come back and repeat 3/5 times we go on a date and there like oh you're an amazing guy looking for a relationship and love... But they normally act like the first date is blah and I don't go on another "first impressions"
Well with my current boyfriend I didn't meet him on a dating website. It was off this online game. We have been in a LDR for over 3 years now. Yes I have dated physically like 12 guys physically. All of them ended before 2 months and weren't that great.
So dating my current boyfriend via Skype video chats. It's made me face things i'm bad at. As in mental issues and not freaking out a lot. I've really improved more than I ever have in my entire life since I met my current boyfriend. Yes we plan to meet up after he graduates college. Having a physical relationship right now for him is impossible with the stress of college. Plus he wouldn't have to worry about keeping me physically happy.
I've only ever dated 1 guy before my current boyfriend that was off the same online game. That one I did meet in person after graduating high school. I drove 12hrs and stayed with him for 2 weeks. My mom said in those 2 weeks I sounded like I was high off of happiness. :D So there wasn't any difference between how he acted in messaging. Though after I felt he felt apart and couldn't do that anymore. Plus leaving to come back really killed me. So that's a huge reason why when I see my current boyfriend physically. I rather it be so I could make it permanent instead of only visiting.
Online dating only works when the 2 people are 100% honest with each other and 100% compatible.
It's simply another way to find a serious relationship or easy sex.
I met my fiancé of 2 years on tinder! You have to weed out the bad. I'm so beyond thankful for online dating! Patience patience patience! We talked for a few days and I finally gave him my phone number and we texted for about 3 days and then within the next month we had over 10 dates.