I know the tittle/question may be controversial, but I please ask for understanding here. I ask the question because I don't want to be a horrible person to my wife. When we got married, I really loved her dearly. Years passed and she gave birth, our relationship became so cold. Her attitude changed giving more importance to her job, our child, our obligations mainly. She became distant to the point that our relationship and our sexual life became irrelevant to her. I tried for several months to revive our relationship. I took her to Paris just the two of us to make it our "second honey moon". During the trip all she did was nag and be distant. I have worked hard to get our relationship back, her attitude is simply not the same and I don't want to hurt her. Anyway a few months back I met this girl at the college I teach, she's not the smartest in my class but she's very beautiful and unique in her own way. Since the moment I saw her I thought she was was beautiful and I noticed she liked me. But at the same time she would avoid me because I'm married. The problem is that somehow we have started a few conversations, and Im really attracted to this girl. The problem is that I'm married, I don't want my son or my wife to suffer. I can't keep living this way anymore, I would love to start a new relationship with my student. Any suggestions or perspectives about this situation?
Most Helpful Girl
You need to have an honest conversation with your wife. Be a decent man, and at least do that. No, you won't get a good response, and yes, your wife will try to tell you you are obligated to her and your children, but - and this is from someone who has watched people force themselves to stay in marriages and destroy their families by doing so - people do change, marriages do change, and those two people who made a promise, do have the right to change their mind, and to walk away from the marriage (not the children) if it isn't fulfilling for them anymore. It is the worst thing in the world to stay in a marriage simply because you feel obligated, that is disrespectful to the whole arrangement. Honour yourself, and honour your wife by explaining you don't feel the way you did, and you both need to move forwards in an honest way, and if you stay in that marriage, it will be a sham, and neither of you can move forwards to have fulfilling lives, if your marriage is holding you both back.1
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Most Helpful Guy
We're guys bro. We're fucking wired this way it's a curse it's in our primal Nature to go balls deep in every women we find lol.
OK I'll be serious now... Don't do it I know it's hard.. I was in the same position, get a divorce first. You have a child to think about. She will rape you in the court room if your affair ever comes to light. I know how feel. I felt like she was sucking the life out of me. I used to call her kill joy lol. Luckily we had no kids, but you have a child so be tactful bro.0