My boyfriend of six months just told me he has a 8 month old son! He is busy a lot and would have emergency a and have to leave dates every once in awhile or cancel so I was suspecting cheating and he finally tells me he has a baby who he has 75 percent of the time. Should I be mad that he didn't tell me for this long? He says it's because he wants to protect his son from getting attached unless he is serious. He just told me last night and I don't know what to do I feel lied to.
i'd be pissed he didn't tell. he may want to protect his son from getting attached but 1. he doesn't have to lie about having a child and 2. an infant son is not going to get attached to a person all that quickly and not quick enough for the son to realize who that person is or the capacity to which they are involved in his life.
i think it would take me some time to figure this out. if i felt an incredible connection to him id consider staying with him but if there were other issues this one may take the cake
I also feel like he lied. Something so important should be disclosed up front, very close to the beginning. He could've explained that he didn't want to introduce the two of you for a while to spare the attachment and loss if it didn't work out.
Well he should have told u so u have the right to be pissed but if he is telling the truth then u shouldn't be mad at him, he is only trying to look after his baby which means he's quite a caring and responsible father
Honestly, I would not be okay with this, I could understand him not telling you at first, but 6 months? What the hell. I would feel hurt in the sense he pursued a relationship without telling me HUGE part of his life. While you're dating.. seeing each other whatever (before dating) its okay he didn't tell you, but after confirming your relationship I think its huge... it's responsible of him for saying he doesn't want his son to get attached if he's not serious.. but 6 months?
You do have the right to feel mad because he lied to you! He should have told you the truth from the start. You should talk with him about this but first think about it, does it bother you he has a son? if it does than it is probably better to break up with him but if it doesn't bother you can stay with him and tell him that he should never lie to you againn and if there is something else he hasn't told you yet he better do it now. :)
The reason he told you as to why he didn't tell you for six months sounds like bullshit. He could of told you from the beginning that he had a child without his kid meeting you. What you do is up too you, but your definitely entitled to be upset. That's pretty important information to withhold from you.