I'm 18 and has never had a girlfriend. Every girl who I think is nice or is attractive that I try to approach, treat me like dirt. I don't know if it's because I'm ugly, or if I'm just unnappealing. But it saddens me. My parents always ask me why I haven't been in a relationship. It's embarrassing for me and it upsets me. I don't want them to think I'm a loser or anything. I don't want to disappoint them... that because of my unability to find true love makes my parents and family sad. It just adds to the pain. I don't know if I'll ever find true love in my life. Every time I feel like I've found something, I get turned away. And it's happened too many times... I've almost given up. If anyone has any advice or anything... I'd really appreciate it.
Most Helpful Girl
well i dont really know your personality or your looks but i suggest just get into a group of buddies. wether it be a school club or some sort of thing.. there are even video game clubs you can join with girls in it. the point is to get the girl to know you slowly. sometimes girls are frightened by guys and act rude as a response out of fear. try not to catch them off guard. make them familiar with you
im going to teach you something that worked on me. back in September on the first day of school a boy in my class compleatly fell for me apon first interaction. i swear i saw hearts in his eyes. i didn't really care for him. he is the sexy type. but usually i go for cute or pretty boys not sexy manly guys. but he was so persistant and unbudging. he always sat next to me. always asked to be my partner. shared snaks and drinks with me. after two months of constantly talking he started to inch closer to me at our desks. getting in my space. but i allowed him there i didn't shy away. i let our elbows touch in class and then that led to us touching eachothers arms while we spoke. and then he asked me to hang out with him and his friends. but he treated me like his girlfriend. very aware of me made sure i wasn't left behind or left out. whispered jokes to me that he didn't share with the others. and when i had walked straight but everyone else turned he grabbed my hand to lead me back. and one week after that he asked me out on a real date. but the trick is.. i already felt like i was dating him.0
Most Helpful Guy
You speak very feminine, and women typically don't want a feminine man.
Saying things like "true love" is very fairy tale esq, and typically gives off the vibe of a desperate romantic (key word being desperate). None of that prince charming disney crap actually works on women, and your first mistake is actively seeking a partner instead of just letting one come naturally. Getting women is like catching flies, you can sacrifice your day to chase them around the house with a net, or you can just put fly paper all over the house and go about your day instead. In my experiences, I've never actively tried to get a woman, doing things and having small conversations have just lead them to me.
So my advice to you is to stop looking for a chick and just let one come to you. Don't be desperate, don't be awkward, just do the things you like to do and get good at them, conversing with women along the way, and if one falls into your snare then take advantage of the opportunity. The minute you stop making women your priority is the minute you will be beating them off with a stick.0