Do guys lose interest if they feel like they don't have to work or "be the man" in order to win a girl's heart? Can girls make it too easy for a guy sometimes and by doing so stave him off?
I'm asking because a friend suggested I back off from "pursuing" a guy to let him "be the man"... as in, if I text him last then I should wait for him to initiate instead of me always contacting him first. But I think the guy in question has low confidence and may need some encouragement.
No lol. I don't chase women. Every time I've ever gotten with a women it was because she made her self obviously available for me. That's when I make my move. If I catch her slipping and playing head games I'm usually out at that point. I think it's a matter of moderation though as with everything in life.
If a girl is texting you day and night then you might think that you are too good for her or she is desperate. At the same time if a girl is stone cold distant I would lose interest because I would much more fun with a girl who IS interested in me. So aim for that line in between.
Well I am not actually sure, but in my opinion not all men like to chase, pursue a woman or want to work very hard to win a woman's heart, so not all men like the chase. If the woman is too hard to get or is rather playing too hard to get then there is a good chance that men will lose interest in that woman.
A lot of guys lack confidence, and even if they really like a girl, they lack the courage to approach a girl and the experience to do a good job at it, so often, nothing comes of that mutual attraction.
A guy who is more of an "alpha male" may absolutely enjoy the chase, and wouldn't be as interested in girls trying to take the lead.
You really have to know a bit about the guy in question.
I think the word "Chase" is so often wrongly used. It should be replaced with "to have" or in some cases "to have more".
I don't like the chase. I like "to have" the girl. If she starts with that chase thing I just go find another girl. Because that chasing time could have been spent on doing nice things together.
I hear girls say things like if he stops chasing he doesn't like her enough but in reality it's because of the needless chasing he had to do he doesn't like her anymore. This is what I mean with "to have".
I also mentioned "to have more" but that is for the guys that can't stay with one girl.
Guys who really "need" the chase is not the kind of guys you want to be with, they are likely had chased plenty of girls already and didn't care too much if an girl don't want them. For me it isn't really about the chase, but about getting an decent girl and not an slutty girl, and most of the time it's the slutty girls who are much more easy, for obvious reasons.
This is true.. maybe not for all guys.. but sometimes I have felt if I didn't have to work a bit then I didn't feel it was worth anything at all.. unless of course you fall in love then that's something completely different. But yes the Chase is exciting for men
Im usaully straight up with the girl i like you , wanna go on a date. If she says anything else but a yes i move on my time is worth something and i dont have time 2 play games. Maybe why im single but its cool with me :)
I'd say most guys lose interest because the girl is "too hard." Honestly if a girl likes me why would she enjoy watching me struggle so hard to get her affection. She would be upfront with me from the start. To make a guy do unnecessary things just means you don't respect him and I want a girl who will respect me because I'd respect them.