I luke this mutual friend of mine. My friend tells me he's been hurt twice and a row and left for someone else. He's was already really insecure and shy. We flirted and fooled around twice while we were drunk. He has not initiated hanging out or texting me since. I still see him all the time in groups. Problem is I'm extremely shy as well. I sometimes even act more quiet around him or ignore him because I don't want to make it too obvious I like him in case he doesn't like me back. Is there a chance he likes me but is really too shy and insecure to initiate sober?
It's almost certain that you are guessing correctly; he's too beaten up by past experiences to risk telling you his feelings. But don't try to get him drunk, you'll never know his real feelings that way.
Invite him for coffee or something informal where there won't be other people noticing...
Ever heard of "fuck it" mode... get a little buzz... tell him all the stuff you just told us... worst case he friend zones you, you can just blame it on the booze... works every time.
well good luck with that. it won't work.
What Girls Said 1
The problem is that if you act quiet or even ignore him because not wanting to make your feelings too obvious then how is he supposed to make a move based on these signals, let him know how you feel by smiling more, not ignoring him, he's not a mind reader and it's maybe your mixed signals that throw him off, no one wants to be rejected or make a fool out of themselves and it seems you both are being extra careful, someone has to grab the bull by the horns and be upfront about how you feel, otherwise it's going nowhere.