Most Helpful Guy
It's not emasculating it makes us self conscious. Men are problem-solvers by nature so many times if you ask us out you've solved the problem of "I gotta find the right time to ask her out." Our response is one of shock. You short-circuit us when you show us the truth. Any time is a good time to come out with it and take what we want. You don't emasculate us. We choose to emasculate ourselves.
Men with low self-esteem choose to feel emasculated and antagonized when they encounter the unexpected. These men are self-absorbed and paranoid. They think that dating is some kind of competition or war game and they feel one-upped and overshadowed by the woman. Dating is a collaborative effort. Dating is not a zero-sum game where the man wins and you lose when he "makes" you give him his number. Not to mention these men feel impostor's guilt. They tend to feel unworthy as the relationship progresses and you get to see the whole version of themselves. They fear you will upgrade to a better man, in fact the guy sees you leaving him as inevitable. The last thing the guy wants is to be with a woman who takes the initiative to ask the man she fancies out. In his mind he can't stop such a woman from upgrading should he fail to live up to your expectations. This is the main reason why men will balk at the situation when a woman asks him out. This is the reason why the guy will get suspicious, controlling and jealous early into relationships created by the woman's proactivity. Not all men mind, however.
Men with healthy self-esteem use the unexpected as a chance to take some time out for introspection and to learn the lessons that women, and all other human beings for that matter, give us.
Also there's the final possibility that we aren't into you. And we men are less deft at putting someone down gently or at all. Most of us pretend not to see the woman's advances and we either hope you go away or the more opportunistic men will even encourage your advances because it strokes the ego or because the woman will nurture the man. Such men have unhealthy mother-attachments and will use girls as mother fill-ins, a girl in such a role is expendable to such a man. And rest assured if you can't fill that role because one of you is away or out of town or because you're fulfilling your responsibilities at home, work or school... such a man is getting some other girl to be his mother stand in. I say mother stand-in but it's really nanny stand-in. These men don't love. They're needy2
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Most Helpful Girl
They would feel happy!4