So I've been talking to this guy for 7 months and things are getting serious. We met when I was 17 and he was 24 so i lied and said I was 18. BUT, I lied 3 times at first he thought I was 20 then I told him that I was actually 18 (I was 17) and then I told him that my birthday was actually tomorrow (when it was actually months from the date) and I was turning 18. I'm afraid if I came clean he'd write me off as a lair but the question isn't if I should come clean it's how I should come clean. I was thinking of something like "I have to be honest with you before we move any further. I have been lying about my age (actually.. my birthday) I was 17 the whole time we talked and I'm sorry if you think I'm a liar or that you can never trust me, and I completely understand if that's the case. I can tell you I'm not a liar and how I'm honest with everything, but I understand if you think this is a deal breaker of some sorts. I am 18 now (haha, I promise I'm not lying this time I'll show you my passport if you'd like.) and if you want to proceed with the relationship that would be great, if you want to end things and just be my friend I also understand"
edit : we aren't dating now, we've just been talking.
- I would leave her but accept the apology (be her friend)45% (5)25% (3)35% (8)Vote
- I would stay with her and accept her apology (date her)9% (1)42% (5)26% (6)Vote
- I wouldn't accept her apology (not be her friend or date her)18% (2)8% (1)13% (3)Vote
- Results28% (3)25% (3)26% (6)Vote
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I can understand why you lied in the first place since you weren't 18 or legal yet at the time, and I know lies just kept on piling up to cover the first lie that you made, so it'll make sense. It's not that of a big deal and you didn't lie about anything else aside from your birthdate, so it's something I'm willing to let go and start fresh.1