I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17 years old. I do love him and I am still attracted to him. However, I don't feel the same way about him. Its not something as simple as "break up with him". We have three kids together. He started becoming emotionally abusive about two years into our relationship. The signs weren't there before, or maybe I simply overlooked them. He gets angry and punches walls or breaks our belongings by throwing them across the room. He hasn't become physical with me, although sometimes I am afraid he will over time. He just.. doesn't even care to spend time with me or the kids either. He would rather smoke a bunch of pot and go to sleep and sleep all day and stay up all night when everyone else is sleeping. He lacks any communication skill necessary to keep a relationship going. He's always been that way but the typical female trait in me hoped that he would change in the communication department as he got older.
Now, we haven't fought in around 6 months. Not even argued. His anger has subsided due to this and he hasn't been emotionally abusive during this time either. However, he has gone into this stage of him wanting me to baby him.. He hasn't had a job in almost 2 years now and that alone makes me start to have a bad taste in my mouth. I've been working nonstop just to pay our mortgage and bills, plus keep enough food on the table for our kids. I have brought up these issues with him and he will say things like "Well if we lose the house we can always go to my mothers." He thinks it is acceptable and that I should simply wait around for him to get off his ass.
I don't want to leave but its getting to the point where I am considering it. And it is completely emotionally and mentally destroying me. Not only do want the kids to grow up with both parents but I seriously thought I was going to marry this guy..
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Well I would seriously evaluate my relationship, your children still can have their father in their lives, but doesn't mean you two have to be together. I would honestly not want my children to watch their father be useless and think its okay, then they might think its ok for me to do everything for them as your boyfriend probably does. It's honestly so unattractive that he doesn't have any goals, or aspirations, he thinks its acceptable to go live with his mum if you lose the house? He isn't even trying to help you with the bills.. you have 3 children not 4. Time to do something for yourself and your kids.1