I'm in the U. S. and I'm not joining the U. S. military. Joining the french foregin legion and leaving in two months. I have my visa and everything ready. French foreign legion is a French Military branch that welcomes all foreginers to join. They come from all over the world. They teach you french and grant you citizenship.
It is very tough and very prestigous. I'm 27 years old..(GaG age is wrong) I'm utterly bored with life. I'm in better shape than most 20 year olds. I'm about to finish my degree and settle down. Girlfriend is probabaly thinking marriage/kids. I just can't do all that shit. Slaving to corporate america to feed kids just sounds like hell on earth to me. I tried to get into the U. S. Military when I was younger but they wouldn't accept me because I have a couple metal screws in my jaw. I need some excitement in my life. I need something new. I need an adventure.. Going to war with a bunch of men from across the globe sounds like quite the fucking adventure to me.
I've always been a savage type of guy. Been training MMA for years. Was great football in high school. I just feel like I need this in my life and I won't feel complete until I do this.
I figure after I serve my 5 years in the legion I can do some contracting work and come back and live in the U. S. I know I'll lose everyone I know within that 5 years.
How do I tell this all to my girlfriend? I love her so much.
Most Helpful Girl
Well actually unlike some of the comment below, I support your POV. Loving someone can't stand in the way of your dreams, and it will hurt later to live your life in regret. If she really loves YOU then she will do her best to understand and support your decision. If marriage is one of HER big dreams, then maybe you need to decide what's more important, La Legion or your family (which you don't seem too interested about)...
Tell her exactly the way the prompt was written above, but break it to her gently and make sure you tell her that you are definitely coming back for her, and reassure her you love her.
Maybe don't say that you're bored with your life (because that includes her), and instead stress that this is a big part of what's in your blood and your dream.
Lastly, don't expect her to take it in a great way- she will most likely be upset and possibly consider breaking it off (maybe temporarily). If she would live on base with you that would be better, but also, this is the military. Your life isn't guaranteed either.0
Most Helpful Guy
Love is not a word that you simply say; it is a way that you treat someone. You made all of these plans without including her and you are leaving for 5 years and this will be the end of your relationship with her. You have already severely wounded your first victim, but don't call this "friendly fire."1