I have needs. You are fooling yourself if you think love is the only thing to a relationship. It seems like I always seem to date the women that don't want to have sex but just want to kiss, waste my time and money, and build a connection. Sex isn't the only thing I want. It is an important part of a relationship.
If you genuinely believe that your penis is more of a priority than honoring her feelings then it would be best for the both of you to go your separate ways. Your sense of entitlement and this attitude where you seem to expect vagina in return for your time and money is highly off-putting and slightly disgusting. That's coming from a woman who is far from a virgin and enjoys sex.
You feel like your penis in a vagina is a priority. For whatever reason, she does not wish to experience that. You don't think it's fair for you to be in a relationship and not get your dick wet. I'm sure she doesn't think it's fair to feel pressured by you and trivialized as a woman by you for not willingly spreading her legs. The only option is for you to leave the relationship and move forward. But don't bitch and complain shall you find another female who gladly fuqs you yet can't satisfy you on a certain level mentally and emotionally.
I think that was something tou two should have ALREADY discussed in great length in what each other want in a relationship in all aspects before heading into a relationship. I can tell you that the both of you are strongly uncompatible sexually for each other. There's only one outcome to this new r/s, I think you should re-iterate to your girlfriend what you want and what your needs are. If she still feels like that she does not want to have sex with you at all while being together then it's probably best for you to end the relationship. If you already feel like your needs aren't met then there's no use in fighting against what you want because it will make you miserable. If you are not already!
Whoa there! I must disagree slightly. Im with a man (a long time now!) I have been practicing abstinence with... Sooo, that's your truth, but let's not label everyone with it. Anyways, I think you should find someone else to date. Because she deserves someone who respects her boundaries, and you deserve someone who you find satisfies your needs. Do NOT try to talk her into it... Thats so wrong, honestly its an emotional massacre. Besides, if you aren't willing to sacrifice this for her, do you really love her? No. Best to move on probably, for you and for her. I wish you luck on your journey to find the lucky one! Sure as hell took me forever but if I can, you definitely can lol
Damn. Sex definitely isn't the only thing, but it's important. I'd break up. Call me a slut or jerk or whatever, but I need it with the person I love. I could deal with someone being abstinent, but no sex ever? I can't. My cunt can't.
You tell her straight up that a healthy sex life is important to you. If wants an asexual but not-aromantic relationship, she needs to find someone okay with that, because you aren't. Either she compromises or you leave.
Incompatibility. Just end the things with her. There is no way it can work oh yeah there is, but you might end up cheating which is worst. So you better break up with her. Honestly I think that sex is one of the most important things in a relationship. Wouldn't be with a guy who doesn't want sex.
Time to move on. When your relationship goal are that different from hers, it will just lead to frustration and heartache for both of you.
This is not about the rights and wrongs of abstinence. This is about two people who disagree on sex... and you're right, sex is crucial. It's great to be abstinant if you choose to be; but if that's your choice, be abstinant with a partner who shares your views.
She was honest with you and not giving it up. Being honest and give up. She doesn't want that, and if she said NEVER I don't blame you for leaving asap. If she said not right now then leave her, you don't deserve her if she's waiting to do that with you. Overall don't stay in the relationship, go get someone who has the same wants, and maybe be a little more upfront before you develop stronger feelings like you did for this girl.
Does she want you to marry her to get sex? Then marry her. Just kidding.
How to avoid waste time building a connection.. tell them on the first date that sex is part of a relationship to you, if they don't think like you, there will be no second date. How to avoid spending money... make the first date be a walk in the park, free museum day or starbucks, where you go first and only pay your own drink.
What does that even mean? did you ask her why she doesn't want sex? Maybe there are some psychological issues involved in which you can assist in her in counselling? I don't think it's normal for someone to not want to ever sex as humans we are built for having sex.
Respect that. If you really can't cope with it, break up.
I'd say to break up. I don't know why adults would even bother having romantic relationships without ever having sex. I can see if they choose to wait for religious reasons or whatnot, but why not at all?
Be kind, but honest that you're looking for something different.
You are right. A sexual relationship is one of the defining characteristics of a romantic relationships as opposed to a platonic relationship. Did she have sex with you at one time and now she is changing her position, or have you never had sex with her? What is the motivating force behind her decision?
Simple question: What are you getting out of the relationship? If it doesn't trump your desires, then go, if you are satisfied with it, then stay. No one can decide for you what is important to you. You will not change her, and thinking that you will is self delusional. Sounds like staying with her is going to be a lifetime of knowing "rosy palm and her five children," if you can live with that then all is good, if not get while the getting is good.
Just end things with her. There's no way this will turn out well. It would be wrong of her to force you to stay abstinent when you don't want to, and it would be very wrong of you to force her to have sex with you when she doesn't want to. You'll eventually end up resenting her if you try to stick through this. Just break up with her and find a girl who you're more compatible with.
Dude honestly this woman sounds like she wants a best friend so break it off and be friends!
And to all the ladies saying he shouldn't feel entitled why is it ok for him to meet all her needs emotionally but she can't meet his needs physically? Now your making it a one way street im sure this dude does any and everything for her and before you crucify me i just want to say that yes he should wait at least 6 months i have no problem with that cause that time will weed out any "players"
Try to find out why? whats her way of thinking? Talk about what you want. Try to compromise. Is it religion? I hate to say it but if you can't reach some sort of understanding maybe you arnt meant to be. If its religious that is something very personal to people and I dont think its would be right for you to get her to violate those views because you would potentially change the person she is.