So I suck so bad at this. He told me that he loved me and I didn't say it back I said why. Bad idea but I still want to be with him I am just not ready to say it yet. He got upset and just keeps asking to forget about it. I told him that I like him but I'm not ready blah. Should I be freaked out or just try to forget it?
Been in love twice. First I knew I loved the girl after the first few hours. Genuinely knew it. We're not talking about some intense desire to hump her leg. Second time I took several months getting there.
I'd take it as a compliment and let it rest. Don't hold the affection back too much if you really like him though. He'll obviously be in a somewhat vulnerable spot now. Maybe do some extra nice gesture to show him you like his feelings? 20 year olds usually cook mean spaghetti.
Don't say it if you don't want to, but don't ask him why. First off, explaining why you love someone cheapens the feelings. Secondly, he knows there's no way to explain it that will satisfy you, and that makes it feel like an impossible situation. Just tell him you're not ready to say it yet but you want to keep seeing him.
I think explaining that you like him but you're not yet ready to say "I love you", like I think you are saying you did, is adequate. So maybe perhaps with time your relationship will evolve to the point where you can say it. I'd say relax and see where it goes from here.
Nowadays, people tend to say "I love you" and not actually mean it. If you don't want to say it then please don't think that it's not okay. You're just being honest. And girl, I felt this way too. You don't want to offend him but you just want to make sure its the right time. Maybe he said it because he thinks its okay to say it at this point. That's okay too, but try explaining to him why you said "why". It'll make more sense to him lol
Don't ask him why, but if you don't want to or you don't feel it, you don't have to. And really, people shouldn't say I love you unless they mean it/feel it. Don't feel pressured or let him pressure you. Just tell him you're not ready to or you don't want to, whatever it is. And along with that you can tell him that you do want to be with him. It shouldn't become a big deal or create unnecessary issues.