My husband and I have two children together. They are 4 and 3 years old. Overall they are really respectful and well behaved children. My husband though.. He treats them like they are little mini adults. It bothers me. If they do anything wrong he will yell at them for no less than ten minutes, on top of sticking them in the corner. They aren't allowed to run around the house. They aren't allowed to play with noisy toys unless it is upstairs in their bedrooms (which they are only allowed in if he says so). All in all, he acts as though he does not want them to be children. He wants them to just 'grow up', it seems. Even enrolling my 4 year old son into wrestling against what my son wanted because he wants my son to "be better" and "learn patience", which is something my husband doesn't even have..
I have a weekend sleepover with my mother once a month and during that weekend, when my husband is at home and its just my babies, siblings and mother, we have a blast. The kids can run around and play freely and laugh and have a grand old time. It brings me so much joy during this weekend and I dread going back home. My kids are so much better behaved at my mothers house as well.
I've brought these issues up with him and he gets irritated or irate mad. Saying that I have no back bone and if he wasn't around then our kids would be hooligans and allowed to do as they please. Which isn't the case, but he makes me feel like an inconsistent parent a lot of the time. He sort of makes me feel like I am incapable of being a parent..
I don't think I am asking a lot. I just want my children to be allowed to be children and have fun. They aren't little adults! Why doesn't he understand this?
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He has to let his kids be kids!
You both have different views on parenting.
Your different ways are clashing.
If you both cannot resolve this... eventually when your kids are a little older, they will observe the conflict.
Children are smart... it won't be long before they do.
I think he comprehends what you're saying.
He just doesn't agree with it.
You both need to find a common ground and come to an agreement before, this turns into something ugly.2
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