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Consider two different scenarios:
-If I see a woman that I might like to have sex with, that prospect is a commitment (of sorts) with a duration of one night. The sex and attraction only has to be better than what I was going to do otherwise (clean my garage, shop for groceries, clean litter box, etc.).
- If I see a woman that I might like to marry, that is the prospect of a long term commitment. My parents have been married for 63 years, that's well beyond 20,000 nights! If I'm going to make a monogamous long term commitment like that, I want a good mix of qualities:
- physically attractive
- sexually compatible
- compatible personality
- same political views
- same views on religion
- same views on wanting / rearing children
- similiar interest and activities
- same level of ambition
When getting married, there is much more at risk. Consequently, there is much more that needs to be gotten right.
Thankfully, the second time around, I got it completely right. @GraySailorsBride ticks all my boxes.2