I have been hurt a lot and I been cheated on 11 times but me and this girl have been together awhile and I feel bad cuz I question her on everything. I love her and truly believe she won't hurt me but my mind gets the best of me and I don't want my trust issues to ruin our bond. Do y'all have tips or things I can do?
11 times, that's too much of a damage you have taken already. I can understand your concerns and I also admire your strength and courage to still keep trying. It's great. It's something I can never do.
Yes, I think there are some good ways to handle this, let me see if I can come up with something and I'll tell you.
WHolly apple of apple GODS! You my friends have serious issues not only on trust but on picking the right girl! Hopeful you did something different this time when pick this girl or she will be number 12!
Go to therapy. Seriously find a counsellor, get professional help. If you have been cheated on 11 times it means that there is something wrong with your picker. It means you are choosing people with the same characteristics. Find out how to recognize early warning signs. I totally get how you feel. I was cheated on and the thought of being with another person scares the shit out of me. But the biggest question you must ask yourself is this: Do I feel safe with this person? If not then leave. If yes than try to remember not everyone cheats and don't blame that person for other's mistakes. Just make sure she treats you with respect. Don't let little things slide, they will eventually add up. Also, maybe you aren't ready for a relationship. If your 17 there's really no need to have one. Focus on your life without the paranoia of being cheated on. Learn to love yourself so you won't need anyone else to fulfill you. Good luck.