My current boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years today. He said to me, "what, are we celebrating anniversaries now?" He was a complete jerk! He almost always talks to me with this rude, condescending tone and I feel like he hates me and has no respect for me. He is having trouble with his family but no need to take it out on me! I asked him to just touch me last night and he woke up yelling at me. It's all really sad and I feel neglected and abused. I am like a battered shell of a woman :.( I recently met some guys at work that were dying to take me out and told me they would treat me like a queen! Why am I not attracted to this type?
It can be hard to find a person with a compatible personality (treating you nice included) while feeling physical attraction. Also those guys may say they'd treate you well but I bet your boyfriend did at first as well. Those guys may not treat you well after years of being together though.
It's possible you may feel bored when in a relationship where the overall energy is emotionally stable. You may find people with negative attitudes more exciting or interesting. As you get older your preferences may change though. You questioning your overall satisfaction in your current relationship could be a sign of you trying to learn and make an effort to grow out of your current situation.
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Because what you have now is what you are use to, it's "normal" for you and being treated nice for once maybe seems alien or maybe even scares you a little because you're not use to being appreciated, look you deserve more than what you have now, you owe it to yourself.
It's because you have no love for yourself, you have no self esteem and no respect for yourself. You lost your dignity long ago and your boyfriend is representative of what you are and what you deserve.
What I notice with girls id that they somehow think that they are the one that will change the bad guy into the good guy. It is some sort of a challenge. I noticed this with almost every girlfriend I ever had.
Can't say this true for you but I do think you should consider this point of view.
If your aware of the way your being treated,.. and you know your looking at the wrong types of people. Only you can change that. I'm an attractive nice guy,... I dont get very many dates because I am a nice guy,... so,... I suppose it's up to you to do soul searching and figure out why your attracted to someone that treats you wrong. It may be simply that you don't feel you deserve better. But the answer lies in you,.. and you should definitely get out of a relationship that makes you unhappy if they won't work to change.