we can't date if there are expectations placed on one of us, but not the other one. A relationship is a partnership, that means equal shares, equal devotion, and equal responsibility.
also, we can't date if i do not find you sexually attractive. People act like this is cold or cruel or shallow. it is not. Relationships include sex, by their very nature. why would anyone pursue a person they did not actually desire? Besides, I expect this goes both ways. No woman would date me if she did not find me attractive.
lastly, we can't date if we can not respect each other's views. We do not need to agree. in fact, agreeing on everything is boring. but we have to be able to respect where we disagree. if you're arguing with your bf/gf over, say, a political issue? you either need to learn how to respect each other's different views, or you need to find someone else.
We can't date if you hunt animals. We can't date if you're too fat. We can't date if you're too muscular. We can't date if you're bald. We can't date if you don't like dogs. We can't date if you're not sexually open-minded. We can't date if you're a racist. We can't date if you're a homophobe.
~... if you're stupid/ignorant or if you don't value education ~... if you smoke or are an addict to anything ~... if you have lots of tattoos ~... if you talk about celebrities all the time ~... if you're part of the fashion police ~... if you hate all animals ~... if you gossip or are, in general, a bitch ~... if you're shallow and/or take lots of selfies ~... if you hate fantasy, e. g. LotR, ASOIAF, etc ~... if you need constant attention ~... if you're not willing to take things slowly, intimacy wise ~... if you're below 5'4 (this is negotiable, obviously) ~... if you're obsessed with technology
Well, there's a list for you. I hope you like it :)
1. A smoker 2. Addict towards a physical substance (e. g drugs, nicotine, alcohol etc.) 3. Treat my family without respect. 4. Sexist Feminazi 5. If you have had wayy to many sexual partners and encounters
"... you spend more than you make on frivolous stuff."
"... you smoke." "... you jeopardize my health." (Like if you keep having stuff around that I'm deathly allergic to)
"... you're super jealous or clingy." I don't cheat. I don't flirt with women when I'm in relationships. So don't assume I do.
"... you cheat. "
"... you try to boss me around and refuse any discussion about it." I dated a girl who would decide certain things (at random) were suddenly "evil" and we weren't to do that any more (No discussion)... Didn't last long, of course.
We can't date if you're smoker, a drug addict, a person with an alcohol problem, sexist, racist, religious (spiritual would be fine), very short, traditional, conservative, right-wing, not remotely smart, very extroverted, close-minded, much younger or older than me, an attention seeker, I could go on.
*... if she doesn't want to have birthed children with me.
*... if she isn't comfortable (not just "tolerant of") being around a large group of black people, especially a group of black men.
The second one above sounds so unnecessary, and I wish it wasn't necessary. But I have seen women date a black guy, and sense her having angst and discomfort around being around his black family members and black friends.
He's really racist against other people. If he's rude to other people. If he's cocky. If he treats me bad on the first date, that's a sign. If he has no humor. If he hates pets and refuses to live with any. If he hits animals. If he's hot headed and gets into fights easily. If he's really vain and/or shallow.
well: -you aren't a christian -you makeup shame -you have ever cheated/led someone on (unless your behavior shows a significant change of heart) -you don't support self-expression -you're abusive (obvs) -you're judgmental - you don't have depth -you aren't at least moderately open minded ... there's a million more but i'll stop there for now.
We simply won't date if you: Smoke, drink, self centered, disrespectful, insecure sexist/abusive, racist, negative minded, too muscular, shorter than 5'6, and last but not least if you don't have a good sense of humor!
we can't date if you are a gangsta we can't date if you aren't tall if you don't have dreams and plans to live out your dreams. we can't date if you don't love yourself. we can't date if you are an ass hole.