I actually dumped a guy that I had been dating because he had been leaving flirty comments on other girls pictures. At first I convinced myself that I was okay with it because we were just dating but it bothered me so much. He was flirty with girls too and said I didn't have to worry, other than that he was a great guy. I was thinking long term and figured he can't be trusted and even though he wanted to commit at one point I just couldn't because of what he had done. He even slept with another girl while we dated. I felt so guilty leaving him after all he had done for me and because he liked me a lot, he was sad but then got a girlfriend... Now I'm thinking I've must be stupid for leaving him and it still bothers me but I just couldn't stop thinking about what he had done while we dated. Everyone was saying what a great guy he is.
Most Helpful Guy
It is 'wrong' how wrong depends on how it makes you feel AND if they actually follow through with the flirting to cheating. Since he did cheat on you it seems clear he was and would be willing to take advantage of his flirting to sleep around. Some men do that to feel good about themselves others do it to see if they can get these random women and go after them if it goes well.
In general a 'good' guy if you want one isn't going to do that, sure as hell isn't going to do it in your face, and wouldn't cheat on you at all.
The ONLY way his flirting and cheating might be 'okay' is if you bother agreed and talked about being in an 'open' relationship where you both are free to see other people.0
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What's he like in real life?
Some people, in real life, are just... y'know... well, flirty.
I'd know, I married one of 'em. He just has that charisma thing. He flirts with women from 19 to 99 years old, because he just likes women. Likes them a lot.
He isn't on social media, but if he was, it would be totally in character for him to leave "flirty" messages for female friends. Like, outrageous messages that would piss off both the girls and their boyfriends IF they came from anyone but him... but that magically don't, because they're from him.
If it's out of character, though, that's another story.0