My boyfriend is the most wonderful guy when we're together. Constantly telling me I'm beautiful, holding me, and making sure I'm happy. But when we're not together, he might as well not exist. He's not very attentive or affectionate through text message. I know what's in person is more important but it's nice to be in contact through text when we can't be together, to know what he's doing and that he's thinking about me.
Am I being too needy? How can I bring it up?
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If it bothers you that much, you should talk about it honestly with him, because I wouldn't expect you to just be able to "turn it off" with regard to you wanting to be texting him more.
That being said, from a guy's perspective, I agree with the other opinions that I generally kind of hate texting, and don't want to do it more. I like to be able to focus on what I'm doing. The benefit in this to a girl is that when I'm with her, that's what I want my focus to be. That being said, when I'm not, I probably have other things to be doing, and texting a girl all day just makes me that much more distracted/less productive, which just leads to me not being able to focus on her as well when we are together. I don't have a problem texting once or twice in the morning or mid afternoon to check in, but I don't want to be with someone who needs a constant stream of texts to feel reassured about herself.1