My boyfriend is the most wonderful guy when we're together. Constantly telling me I'm beautiful, holding me, and making sure I'm happy. But when we're not together, he might as well not exist. He's not very attentive or affectionate through text message. I know what's in person is more important but it's nice to be in contact through text when we can't be together, to know what he's doing and that he's thinking about me.
If it bothers you that much, you should talk about it honestly with him, because I wouldn't expect you to just be able to "turn it off" with regard to you wanting to be texting him more.
That being said, from a guy's perspective, I agree with the other opinions that I generally kind of hate texting, and don't want to do it more. I like to be able to focus on what I'm doing. The benefit in this to a girl is that when I'm with her, that's what I want my focus to be. That being said, when I'm not, I probably have other things to be doing, and texting a girl all day just makes me that much more distracted/less productive, which just leads to me not being able to focus on her as well when we are together. I don't have a problem texting once or twice in the morning or mid afternoon to check in, but I don't want to be with someone who needs a constant stream of texts to feel reassured about herself.
I think you're being too needy. He already shows you through actions and words he loves you. Personally I hate texting. It's a pain in the ass. I'd prefer to call. You don't want to smother him and you need to give each other time to miss each other in between dates. He also needs his space. You say he's not very attentive. What do you mean by this? That he's not telling you how much he loves you and how great you are at least once a day, or he ignores you if you need his help or if you're having issues with something that day?
Texting is not just a "guy thing" - we text for a purpose, not to just chat. Dating was so much better before texting, you appreciated time together more, and there wasn't this constant need for contact.
I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm not a big texter, and I know that most guys aren't massive fans of it. But, it's just such a convenient form of communication. I don't like to call, especially during weekdays because everyone's so busy with work or whatever. My guy is perfect in person, but texting is just soo bad... and is getting worse. It's important to me because we live so far apart (hundreds of kilometres away). I get what you're saying about how it's/would just be nice to hear from them 😊... I don't think you're being needy. I guess just try not to take it personally, focus on how loving he is in person. An action can be worth a thousand words. I message my guy much less now, but when I do, I try to just make it really count 😉. I hope that helps!
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