Hello, I'm almost 22 years old and I find it hard to date because of communication barriers. I feel that I should give up on relationship thing, because I just have been rejected by a girl again. She knew sign language, but it's just hard to move on and it's hard to find someone who knows sign language or accept my deafness. I just don't know what to do, because relationships are hard to deal with and I don't have good experience with it. Would you, hearing girls, even date a deaf guy who uses sign language only?
Most Helpful Girl
I can honestly say I would. I know a little sign, and would of course need to learn more, but if the person was worth it, why not. The reality though, is that both of us would need to be very patient with one another. I think most of the trouble between the hearing and deaf worlds comes from one or the other or both becoming frustrated with the communication and giving up, but both sides would need to realize that its difficult not just for the deaf person, but for the hearing person as well to acclimate towards one another and to find ways to communicate effectively, not just in the good times, but in the bad times as well. Technology helps, but it can also be a barrier to effective communication if you always have to lean on a device to talk to one another. All that being said, I'm not going to pretend its not most likely harder for you in the dating world especially when it comes to dating hearing girls, but like the rest of us out in the dating pool, you can't give up hope. All you can do is keep trying, keep dating, and hopefully the right one for you will come along.1
Most Helpful Guy
If the question was the other way around, yes I would (because I know ASL) and I like the sense of humour, honest and bluntness that often comes with people in the Deaf community.
@ScruffyNateAK has the right idea. You need to socialise and meet people. There are still Deaf Clubs these days, if you know where to look. The college I went to would organise nights out for dinner and everyone, students and deafies, were invited to come along and hang out and chat (voice off!). I also used to go to a weekly drop in social night run by a deaf LGBTQ organization.
It really depends on where you live, a bigger city is more likely to have more events like this. I am on a mailing list for my city and get an email every month or so listing all the upcoming events. Look for Facebook groups too.0