I tried my best to refrain myself from getting attached to another woman who parties a lot, considering my last relationship ended for that reason. She says that she likes me, a lot, and that she wants us to be a thing, and so do I. But the one thing that gets me is that she parties quite a bit. We're both in college, so it's expected, but I'm more on the introvert side; not that she's an extrovert, but just the thought of her partying with a bunch of frat guys kind of makes me want to turn away and run. What do I do in this type of situation? Do I stay, let her off easy, or what?
Most Helpful Girl
Give it a shot! Maybe step out of your comfort zone and join her at the party? It could be uncomfortable, but if you like spending time with her, its better then sitting at home wondering what she's doing. And hopefully at some point she'll ditch a party and do something you wanna do.1
Most Helpful Guy
You're probably better off finding a girl that matches your line of interests. Physical attraction and open communication can happen with many girls, you just happened to crack open this can.
If she's a party girl at 18-19, this ride is barely beginning. She'll be on it for another 5-6 years and beyond college. She feeds off of the atmosphere and the attention, and if you go your own way it's only a matter of time before the act gets stale and she vibes with another guy. When drugs and alcohol are involved, expect it sooner rather than later.
This is speculation, but sometimes you have to make these difficult decisions to avoid trouble down the road. In the meantime, you're still 19 and capable of finding a girl you can gel with on a Friday night.2