Im just a teenager, and Im really curious, how do people not care about physical appearence when it comes to dating? I know all the inner beauty thingy, but I really want to know like how you guys and girls NOT CARE about physical appearence? How?
Most Helpful Guy
I doubt there are many people who don't care about looks what so ever, but how important looks are may differ per person. Especially minor "flaws" (big nose/ears, receding hairline, etc) are often more easily overlooked by people.
Assuming you're looking for something more than a fling or hook-up, physical appearance is just a part of the greater picture. You can only click so much with a shallow airhead 10/10 looking person without any desirable or positive personality traits, for instance.
I care little about physical appearance. As long as it's not extremely bad and she has a good/complementing personality, I'd date her.
It's probably a side-effect of thinking I was ugly for the longest time (as an average man, getting compliments about your physique is almost non-existent), which made me focus on personality as that's something I did deem decent about myself. I knew that even if ugly, I had something to offer.
Even though I'm now aware I'm average looking due to events, I still hold personality very highly. I'd rather spend my time with a kind someone with whom I can relate and connect even if she's "below average" in looks, than some 9/10 looking woman with plenty of negative traits and a negative presence all-round. Looks are an extra to me.
Some people may claim I'm a "barrel scraper" for not focusing on looks, but looking past looks has resulted in making several friends and getting to know some great people.
Furthermore, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.1
Most Helpful Girl
Lol for me I've dated guys who I was initially attracted to coz of looks and for me there was nothing else to it. Like I couldn't have a conversation with him or her just didn't interest me. He usually wasn't the type of guy I liked personality wise. Now my current man who is now my fiancé... I was not really attracted to him the way he was to me. I thought he was average looking but I fell for his personality and sure enough we fell in love and here we are. Having fallen in love with him he is now the most attractive man in my eyes1