I seriously cannot handle high school fuck boys anymore lol. But I have no idea where to look for some nice older men. College? Football games? Bars? Lmao I just have no idea where I'm supposed to find someone that's worth it anymore. I'm almost 18 and I'm done playing games. Just looking for suggestions
You could go for guys a few years older than yourself. The age factor isn't such a big deal considering you will be 18 soon, and free to make life decisions involving older men.
My advice for the short term would be to scope out guys that take school seriously. Maybe I'm biased, but the level of maturity in a guy can be measured in how much pride he takes in work that isn't revered by his peers, such as studying and developing his core principles in life. It's harder than it seems, because students who get pushed hard by their parents aren't necessarily going to have this quality.
You want guys who display an intrinsic drive for success, because they are willing to cut the bullshit in order to achieve it.
So I should tell you if you want legitimate mature guys don't get your hopes up too high when you go to college. Basically the same behavior that some guys do that you hate is only amplified 10x in university. There are guys probably in your school that are what you look for. You just don't come across them. A lot of guys that aren't looking for a quick fuck aren't the most confident when they're young. It kind of sucks but yeah the only guys that you actually want are probably the ones that never try to talk to you out of shyness. You simply have to just tough it out until you meet a guy that is nice. Bars clubs and football games are probably not the places where you'll meet guys like that. Just try and meet and make as many friends as you can in college and then hopefully you can meet a guy through a friend who knows what you're looking for in a guy.
First of all, I know it's obvious, but wait until you're 18 first. No decent guy will give you time of day if you're under 18. That being said, even if you are 18, if the guy is really mature, he still may think you're too young for him. I myself prefer girls in their late 20's and I'm only 24. Still, there is hope. High school is weird... trust me, once you leave that place as long as you are sociable you'll start meeting some great people. I don't know how much dating experience you have, but just be careful about dating older guys. They're smart and have been around the block. If you aren't emotionally prepared for something like that, you may end up getting hurt in the long run.
Older boys aren't any better. They'll see a young woman as someone they can easily pressure. And the guys who are actually decent are not going to date an underage girl, or someone who isn't even old enough to drink.
Good question. I'm 21, so I'm still kind of in that younger age-bracket (as I'm sure many people will be pointing out to you:) First of all, some girls really ARE attracted to older men. They can't help it... they just are. If that's you, you'll need to sit back and try to realize that there will be an age gap. And with that comes some differences. Older men will probably be taking life much more seriously than in school and will have life and goals a bit more figured out. What this means is they need to be attracted to qualities in you that match theirs. Look honestly at yourself and who others perceive you to be - if you're pretty mature and feel like others see you that way, then you probably have some strengths and possibilities for attraction. But if it's the opposite, I would suggest learning how to gain more of a serious perspective on life and what YOU want - then you'll have a better idea, when that guy comes along. But, most of all... don't lose hope - age-difference relationships have pretty much been the historical norm.
Guys do not mature in college... I know more fuckboys in college than high school.__. Definitely not bars, most guys there are looking for hookups... You'll find a nice mature guy when the time comes. :)