And by long I mean almost as long distance as possible. She is from Australia and I am from New York, opposite sides of the world. I love this girl to death, no woman has ever made me feel this way I have never fell in love with a girls pure personality before until I met this girl, she could be the ugliest woman in the world but I would still love her because I enjoy being around her so much. We will probably be able to see each other only once a year, maybe twice but I desperately just want to be with her, whatever it takes.
Most Helpful Girl
Awesome question - I'm wondering the same thing! We've all heard so many opinions about LDRs, that we can feel so confused/doubtful about it being a success. by the way - huge congrats on you two having such an incredible connection!! - that's really exciting! A month ago, I started my first LDR - and it's been very, very strange (in a good way) and kinda scary. I think personally, I need to stay connected - not in a needy way (though especially with LDR, that's easy to do!), but actually letting my brain realize that person on the other end is real! lol :) Something very important that I've been realizing is: if you're not sure, do NOT assume! I've had some panic moments, wondering what things could mean. But then he'll say something that makes me realize how false my assumptions were. In an LDR, we HAVE to just accept that there will be a level of trust, much sooner than for non-LDR daters. Oh - and I know a ton of people put pressure on flying to see each other. Yes - this is ABSOLUTELY important (ha! - as if we weren't already DYING to see them lol), but we have to be accepting of our budget. Just try to keep change and love in the relationship - this will be your fire. :) Anyway - I wish you the best of luck!! And have a blast!!0
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A long distance relationship can only be temporary. Sooner or later it must be in person. If you don't have any realistic plans for getting together permanently in person, then no it can't work.
The key word here is realistic. There are a lot of obstacles to overcome. High costs to meet in person a few times (a bare minimum of 2.5K each time you meet, probably more). Much higher costs to move permanently. You have to deal with passports and visas. There's no guarantee on a visa, resident visas are not given away like candy. You have to deal with jobs. You have to deal with one of you leaving your family behind, and maybe not seeing them for years at a time, and potentially never seeing them again. Not just leaving their family, but also leaving their homeland.
Last but not least, if you meet in person they might not be at all what you imagined them to be. There are tons of little things about people that can make or break a relationship. Many of those things can only be discovered in person. One reason why it's so easy to fall in love online is because you only see a part of them, and fill in the blanks with the rest.
That's a lot of negatives. Yes it can work and does work a lot of times. But more often it doesn't. If you are being realistic, and can make good solid plans for the near future, then go for it. If your plans aren't realistic, or it keeps getting delayed, then it's time to take a very serous look at whether it can really work out or not.0