All my life, I've always been the friend that gets the guy none of the girls want. If I like a guy and I go for him, he rejects me. When I'm out with my friend, I'm always getting the overweight, the creep who hits on anyone or just the guy I'm not into. Personality or looks wise. It really has tampered with my self esteem because people say "you are what you attract". Well if that's true, then maybe I'll be single forever. That makes me sad. I just want to know what it's like to be beautiful. I'm tired of feeling like the ugly duckling. Guys barely ever show interest and when a guy does, it's always an old guy, a fat guy or a creep.
Unfortunately the old, ugly fat creeps are in abundance and always looking for something. Maybe you seem approachable and friendly, I'd say you are a nice person and they pick up on that. As for the guy you like not being interested it's very common and no reflection on you. Keep smiling and I'm sure it will work out.
I'm going to share with you something that you may have not picked up on yet. The feminist movement happened. Men, the ones you want and would want you in return, have no idea how to be men anymore. They have no idea how to approach and those that innately 'know' are confused by women who aren't feminine.
You are not alone in this predicament. But consider this your road to Damascus. You 'can' get ahead of your competition.
1) Do real research into the lives of women of yesteryear. Figure out what the heck they did right because 'they' got married in droves.
2) Look at the women who have the success you desire 'today'. Armed with the knowledge of what 'was', look for the parallel of what 'is' successful today. Those are the things you could or should be doing.
Enjoy being single, until you discover that what you really need might not be what you want, and accept it. You might discover that what you want right now might just be about the image of yourself you wish to project, not what you really want. It takes maturity to get there. Good luck.
That's how the world works. It's a chains. It's the exact same thing your crush thinks about you- 'Why do I attract women whom I dont find attractive?'. It's usually a sign of setting higher standards than yourself. It's a mistake probably everyone has done in their life.
Maybe you should lower your standards. Unattractive people usually attracts unattractive people. You could be sleazy looking that's why you attract the older pervs. There's many factors. Do you think a girl who dresses classy would attract these men?
Ok, I have found this often in the past too. But then again I have also dated ‘above’ myself look wise too and I think that is all down to confidence. The fact is, less ‘handsome’ men are often prone to hitting on anything and everything that comes their way. Apparently is some genetic thing that they often think they have more of a chance with a woman than they actually do because if they didn’t take risks then they might miss the one time when a girl is actually interested. I hate to use numbers but it’s the easiest way so – I put myself anything between a 5 and a 6.5 depending on things like what kind of day im having/if I have make up on/am I wearing a nice dress ect… so when im actually making the effort say, on a night out-im hopefully somewhere around a 6. Sometimes 4’s might hit on me (always feel sorry for guys because they can’t improve themselves with makeup lol) and I start to worry I haven’t fixed myself up enough and lose my confidence…so there’s no way I’m gonna attract ‘my level’ because I look like I’ve lost my confidence and that gives out a ‘keep away’ aura to all but the more desperate of men. I would hope to attract fellow 6s or there abouts but if I have a drink in me I’ll happily hit on someone hotter. I’ve dated solid 8’s before. I find the best thing to do is if you have a day where you are feeling particularly good about yourself and you’re on a night out – you be the one to do the approaching. Usually men react quite well to that. If they don’t THEN you might be batting above your league…or simply need to re think your look. Hope this helps.
Well, the old guy, the fat guy and the creep may feel the same way as you. The "creep" might be nervous and shy and liked you so he went out of his comfort zone to talk to you. And turning him down because the first impression and his looks is beneath you is just mean and hurtful. It's not just the hot and confident people who wants a relationship, and some of those gusy you turned down might have been really kind and good men, you just never gave them a chance to show you.
If you really want to find that special one for you, you'll have to look deeper than looks and the first impression. I give a shitty first impression because I'm really shy and have a hard time looking strangers in the eye. Give them a second chance. It might be worth it. :)