I'm not the jealous type but it seems like my girlfriend is always trying to push my buttons, yesterday within a span of an hour she sent like 4 different messages about guys hitting on her and telling her how beautiful she is and how amazing her breasts look in her dress, it got so annoying like should I address this with her or let it go? It just seems so immature like is this normal why does she keep doing this?
- Tell herVote A
- Let it goVote B
Most Helpful Girl
Hmmm... sounds like she's actually using reverse psychology with you. My mom used to do this, so I have some insight into how this works. I think there are 2 possibilities: Either 1) She's truly that openly hurtful and sadistic or 2) she's really digging for your love and complements, but is going about it in a very hurtful/inappropriate way. If it's scenario 1, I think you probably will know what to do. But the more likely would be 2 - which means there's hope. :) First, really think back to how many times you both have told each other your feelings - both of love and anger/fear. If you feel you're pretty open about that, maybe ask her what actions of love mean the most to her - she might be misinterpreting your affection as something else (I know - we girls are confusing!). But if you know there's a lack of affection/communication, this is the root of the problem. This conversation will be awkward, but if you gently take charge and guide the conversation towards both of your frustrations, acknowledging that you feel and want to fix that void, and then hearing her feelings/thoughts, I think there could be a wonderful possibility of healing and a much stronger relationship. And who knows? - she secretly may have been waiting to have that discussion, but has been to afraid/nervous to say anything. My best of luck to the two of you!!0
Most Helpful Guy
It's immature honestly. We guys expect our SO to shun advances from other guys just as our women expect the same from us , but to flaunt it in our face is without in very poor taste. Wasn't able to vote actually not knowing how solid your relationship is or how stable your girl is2