I went on many dates and all the guys find me too prim and proper for their liking. Often they would say I am too feminine and would prefer me to be energetic. I find it awkward to always be so carefree all the time. I am just not the type of girl who suddenly bust a move while dancing or anything. It's just not be and I'm just uncomfortable with it. Being prim and proper is me yet guys always shun me. They always say they like non pretentious girl but its not like I'm pretending. It's just me. I'm just not a girl who would allow myself to doze off while in a car or just burp and yawn openly. What should I do?
Prim and proper is sort of a code word for stiff and boring.
You don't have to be the energetic type but you do have to be stimulative - interesting conversations etc count too! You might be. But here's the thing; People can only see what you show them. If you're being too reserved they can't see anything. You might both be missing out but if you're the one holding back it is (mostly) you causing it. Try telling an awkward story or two on the next date. You don't need to break your comfort zone, but try to challenge it a bit. It does wonders and he will tell that you're doing something naughty by your standards and enjoy that.
And you need to losen up a little... While this behaviour is most likely instilled at home and at school, being like this will only hurt you in the real world where it's a dog eat dog world and you need to be and put yourself out there if you really want to be successful! No one will notice you if you want to always ride the back seat. Dare to be a little more bold and grab the front seat/ bull by the horns. Stop being afraid to fail, that's life... We can't control everything. I'm telling you this as someone who was also very "proper" as a young girl... Only to realize such behaviour doesn't get you anywhere. You need too grab and go for what you want... Otherwise, prepare to settle. I think you will really find it helpful to read the link I sent you. Subscribe if you'd like ;-)
Date more guys. There are plenty of guys who will be happy with you as you are. Some of those guys may be a bit reserved, like you are. If you find one you like, you may have to bash him over the head with a clue stick.
it sounds like you have a nicety problem, look there's nothing wrong with a nice girl but we also want that other side of the girl the freak, the slut, the whore, the bitch, the cocksucker you get the point, we dont want a girl saving up for a marriage that won't last,
You shouldn't change you, just maybe how you portray you. So something I think works for attracting all genders is to show your passion, or get excited about something, in a conversation if you start getting excited about what you talk about, you know like faster talking, maybe some hand gestures, lots of smiling, wide eyes, then that's appealing to the other person because it shows your passionate about something, which is very attractive, a trait that most people really want in a partner
be more descending about guys you ask out. or if you dont ask guys out. start. you're leaving it up to them t choose you,. so of course you don't end up with anyone you want. choose who you want instead of hoping the right guy pops up:) guys tend to approach based on physical attraction you can approach based on more than that.