Guys talk to so many girls at once because they know that they will eventually get rejected by a portion of the women they pursue. Therefore, we have to be conscious of the fact that we will get rejected and plan our rejections in to our pursuits accordingly. By talking to so many girls at once, we increase the probability that we'll end up with one of the girls at the end of the day. For example, if I have a 10% chance to get with any given girl, then I should talk to 10 women at once to have a 100% chance at getting with at least one of the girls.
Additionally, most guys don't expect to be pursued by a woman because women rarely approach men. Therefore, we need to be proactive and opportunistic while interacting with women. Our opportunism is why we flirt with every girl alive and are perceived as players in the process.
Most guys younger than 20 tend to be major fuck boys anyways, they then turn into frat boys once college arrives.. lmaoo. It gets better and most mature later in life anyways. Just avoid players bc if they do it once chances are they're going to do it again. And once again, we're under 18, we're going through puberty, and since we're in the midst of it we're going to be horny.. (I mean i'm not, but guys are horny af at that age). P. s- Horniness ofc means your imagination is "SEX, SEX, SEX". So mhmm, they want it bad.
1. for fun 2. really? you dont do that? lol every girl in the class that i date does it 3. its good to not get emotionally attached too much, too soon, so this is an effective strategy to prevent that 4. Find the right match!! Date around until the right match clicks with you
Because you don't understand the dating game for men. For us it's a game of numbers. We may ask out/ talk to 10 girls. MAYBE 3 will be interested, and MAYBE 1 will result in anything. Women are flakey, if we did one woman at a time it would take forever to find one.
I am guilty of this and no, it is not because we are players, ok let me explain why. We learn from a very young age that it is a numbers game and women tend to be the choosers after all. So to increase our chance of being chosen just seems wise to increase our net and talk to as many girls as we can. Women do this do but they are the ones that get approached. Why put all your resources, effort, time and your emotion into one girl that has a chance of not working out, or playing games with you, acts erratic or just seems not interested at times. Whether you want casual sex or a long term girlfriend it just seems logical to talk to as many girls as possible and to find the one that fits you and to see if she is responsive too.
By talking to many girls they're raising their chances of getting a girl. It saves time. If he dedicates like 5 hours of his day time on you (or more) everyday and you end up rejecting him he would have to go look for somebody else and all that time would have gone to waste. By talking and flirting to multiple girls at least one is bound to say yes I personally can't do that cause it feels wrong to me and would make me feel guilty but I can see how that strategy would work
This is happening because you only notice the guys who are willing to put themselves out there. The guys you notice are statistically the most likely ones to be talking to many different women. They put themselves out there to an extreme degree because they know if they play the numbers they will eventually get someone. Go after the guys who aren't trying to get your attention, and this problem will become a non-issue because these guys are an extremely tiny percentage of men.
It's called "playing the field". It increases the odds of getting laid and knocking someone up. Don't forget how nature works. There are two types of men in the world.
One type tries to knock up as many women as possible without caring about their offspring. The other type consentrates on one particular woman and makes sure his offspring grows up to be strong and capable.
It's up to the women to decide which type they prefer to date.
Not me, under 18, I never talked to many girls because every other guy alive were pretty much "playing" them so to speak and I ended up always being alone. I just mean other girls would have been more friendly to me if other guys weren't being so friendly toward them. Better yet, girls can end up being the same way because of those guys influence.
Why do some guys talk to so many girls at once? as for the flirting thing
-That are arrogant and think they are supposed to.
Numbers game. If you go to a bar and approach 100 single women (a massive overestimation to make a point, by the way), 15 of them will chuck a drink in your face. 15 will take your drinks all night and then fuck off home, 30 will politely tell you to fuck off and 40 will be down to fuck. If you only approached one woman, the odds of you getting some are way lower than if you approached 100.
just the way of the world I guess, if roles got switched. and the way of the norm was that girls were to approach guys, who's to say it wouldn't be the same that way round, talking to multiple guys cause suddenly it's hard to find a match.
it seems to me that a girl can pick a guy she likes whenever she feels ready as any guy would pretty much be willing. but guys get turned down sooooo much when we approach I guess it's only natural.
Every time I talk to a woman, doesn't matter how much we clique and talk... she will eventually stop talking to me. This has happened to me numerous times, and it sucks. As result of this, I learned that the best method to keep women in your life is to talk to 5-6 at a time. If 1 girl leaves you for some reason, you have 5-6 more to chose from. When I start running low on the number of women I am talking to, I just go out and get more numbers and "refill" the number of women I am talking to.
Fact of the matter... if women were more consistent and didn't cut a guy loose so quickly, men wouldn't need to talk to 5-6 different women at the same time.
Because dating for men is a number game. Too many times guys invest time, money on a girl for her to end up a flake, go no contact, or STRAIGHT up reject them.
So guys are basically keeping their options open. Women do the exact same thing but for different scenario. Women get tons of guys offering to take them out on dates, and to have sex with them. They be messaging multiple guys to determine which one is the best and has the most to offer then tell the rest of guys to fuck off.
Not every guy does that. Those who do are trying to have "fun". They are ass holes. But if you strike one of those ass holes and he likes you, he is ready to give you time , tells you the truth, give him a chance.
Because they want to "hit" something.
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