Okay I've been dating this girl for almost 5 years and early last year I lost my job as a builder.
Because of that my girlfriend works pretty much every day and money has become tight.
I hate not working and she knows that.
What she doesn't know is that now I'm not working a full time job I've been suffering from depression and we both stress each other out.
Sometimes I can't even get out of bed because I don't feel like I have a purpose.
She comes home every day dead tired and always makes a mess of the house and if it's not spotless when she comes home she crack's it at me because I don't clean every day.
She expects me to be a house bitch and she did even when I was working 80 hours a week plus and it gives me the shits.
I'm now working 30 hours a week for fuck all money and my job sucks.
But as of late she's been treating me like I'm worthless and won't ever achieve anything.
She came home tonight and basically asked me if I was thinking about leaving her because I wasn't in a good mood and started talking about how it's all because she's tired and I don't do enough so I have no right to leave.
I was never thinking about leaving but she always thinks I am and it's stressing her out and she's stressing me out and I don't know what to do about it.
I'd get a better job but honestly where I am no one has any work and the few that do won't hire me because I'm not part of the sporting clubs and I have no interest in it
I just wanna know how to fix everything...
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Hey sweet :)
Firstly, you're in a relationship lol. You haven't been 'dating' for 5 years 🙈
Things sound pretty stressful, sorry about that!
It sounds from an outside point of view like you both need to sit down and really tell eachother calmly, open and honestly about how you're both feeling - sounds as if you're both just misunderstanding eachother and that neither of you knows how the other one is feeling.
I'm sure if she knew how crappy she was making you feel she would be absolutely mortified, and I'm sure she has the way you view things all wrong.. A discussion could be good.
Or even write letters to eachother if you can't make the words come out.
Hope you're ok. Xx1
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