I am single and am at the point of wanting to date other men. I have slept with a guy friend who likes me and we are not at all exclusive. I am going to be truthful to him that I would like to casually date other men. Just want to know if I should tell him or not? If so how do I tell him? I want to see others as this guy friend of mine is 29 and I am 46. Does age really matter these days? I have wasted my time with dating one guy at a time. To only find out that most want friends with benefits package and/or do not want a long term relationship. I do like my guy friend however want to keep my options open as well as I do not want to waste any more precious time being hopeful that "This is the one" to be only heartbroken again.
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I have never dated casually. At every time in my life when I was dating, I was exclusive (whether I made it known or not) from the first date. I then dated that person until the relationship ended. This applied whether it was one date or my first marriage. Even when I was dating on eHarmony, I still followed this rule. I met my current wife there, and again, we have been exclusive from the first date.
If you want to see other guys that's fine. You just won't be seeing me. Also, I have never resumed dating someone I had been seeing but broke off with. You get on shot at exclusivity with me and that's it.
I'm far from the only guy that thinks this way. Your approach to dating, should you adopt it, may wind up being hugely counter-productive. The guys most inclined to pursuing a serious relationship with you are the least likely to accept that you are dating other men much less having sex with them.
I would never shame someone, or belittle them, or attempt to control their behavior.
I would never consent to date under those conditions, no matter how highly I thought of you, no matter what you thought of me. If you are going to be with multiple men, that's fine. I just won't be one of them.1