My boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 years. We are talking about moving in together once i save up more money he is 28 and im 24. His mom and dad are taking a week long vacation this summer on a cruise and im not invited. It is him his 27 and 23 year old brother going. I find it odd that his family has always made me feel like part of the family since day one and aren't inviting me. Its not like we have been dating for 4 months its been 4 years. And his parents know we plan on moving in together. Neither of his brothers have a SO. His mom is paying for him which i find odd because he is a 28 year old grown man. I am even more hurt that my boyfriend isn't willing to take a stand and say look either you invite my long term serious girlfriend or im not going. Its like he doesn't even care that im very hurt by this and he is choosing them over me which i find very odd that after 4 years i come second to his family especially since we are adults talking about settling down together. To me it is also very concerning that his mommy is paying for a 28 year old to vacation with her and he is accepting it. I kinda thought family vacations without long term sos ended like years ago. Is this a red flag that he is too attached to his family and that he can't put our relationship first? We dont plan on getting married so dont even bother saying it will change after that because thats a moot point.
Most Helpful Guy
Nothing wrong with what he is doing. Maybe his parents want to spend time with just the family. I can see how you are pissed that you aren't invited, but maybe money's tight for them. Maybe they have something special planned just for the family. Maybe, maybe, maybe. It can be anything.
And your attitude about his parents shouldn't pay for it because of his age is ridiculous. You guys aren't married and you said it's not ever happening. Maybe his parents know this. If so, they aren't entitled to invite you.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Its just a family vacation. They probably wanted it to be just family. If you expect him to refuse family time just cause you're not there you are being unreasonable. Family comes first0