Before you break up with him, would you punch him or slap him or even choke him?
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This happened to me. And basically what happened was I found out he had an active dating profile while we were together. A friend of mine messaged him, seeing him on there and started talking to him. He didn't know she was my friend. So he told her a bunch of stuff.
He had been seeing someone else at the same time and I found out that they had broken up because she didn't want to go on trips (which I was trying to get him to go on).
I had no idea. Maybe I was naive. But basically what I ended up doing was confronting him, I tried to talk to him about why he did this and whether he was unhappy in the relationship and if he was, why didn't he tell me?
He essentially had no answers for me, and denied the profile existed. But then admitted it existed but said it was a guy who was pretending to be him online, and that he was in contact with the site and the page would be down in 24 hours. Which never happened, the page is still up and he's still active on there. Yet he thinks I'm the bad guy for 'breaking his heart'.
I honestly wanted nothing to do with him after I found out. I was devastated and hurt. This was a guy who said he wanted to move in with me and have a future together. Obviously that was all a lie.
I stopped talking to him and haven't spoken with him since. I ran into him once, and he looked terrified of me. I just kept walking. I have nothing more to say to him and want nothing to do with him,
I kind of wish I had done something, like punch him or kick him, But I thought about that and what would it accomplish?
I felt like moving on and living my best life, was probably the best revenge I could get. Maybe not the most immediately satisfying. But one day when I am married to an amazing man and life is all falling into place, I will be thankful he is out of my life :)0