Should I approach him or wait?

So I am usually a confident and out going woman but when it come's to face-to-face situations like these, I am a shy baby. I like this guy in my school and we get along, he's funny and has great taste in music. My friend C told me that he likes me and would date me. Should I approach him first and tell him I like him, or should I wait for him to come to me?

  • Approach him.
    78% (7)85% (33)83% (40)Vote
  • Wait.
    22% (2)15% (6)17% (8)Vote
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My friend showed me messages of him saying he wants to ask me out but he doesn't know how to. I'm going to tell him I like him and hope he asks me out.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I know it sounds simplistic but go for it - Now I am by no means a super confident guy and I have crushed as hard as the next person but anytime I liked someone I have gone for it. I had some magical successes and some letdowns (Note the word letdowns I will come back to it).
    Look it this way, I am shy, does she like me or maybe she doesn't like me, should I wait for spring for daisy to pick the petals off in a game of she loves me/she loves me not, unless you are keeping something from us, you are not a mind reader. So months of this or talk to him what could happen
    Best case scenario some form of dating, Worse case a LETDOWN unless he is a complete jerk he will turn you down gently, you will feel crappy for a few days but will bounce back.
    Anyway if he sees the impressive young girl we see on GaG I think you will have every chance of success.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Do you like an aggressive/assertive type of man?

    This is important. If that's an essential quality in a man for you, then you CANNOT do the approaching. If you do, it will poison the relationship, because you won't be able to get that out of your head.

    That doesn't mean you can't manipulate the hell out of the situation, but, yeah.

    Y'know those carnival machines, where you have to use the claw to pick up the stuffed animal?
    Think of it like that. You can position the stuffed animal right at the edge of the thingy, but HE still has to use the claw.

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What Guys Said 14

  • Don't wait and let life slip you by. You already knows he wants to date you, but might just be timid and shy to ask first. So go for it.

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  • Go for it, if he likes you thats a big plus and i suggest actually going and talking to him. Better do it soon to usually girls in high school like to cause problems for each other. Like dating the guy they like.

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  • Approach him because there is no reason to wait. If he's one of those "traditional" eaters that doesn't want the woman to make the first move, then boom he's weird.

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  • I think you should wait for him to aproach you because that's the guys role. That way you know if he likes you and your not inviting creepiness (if he is). It's hard to put in words.

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  • You should go for it. Otherwise you don't know what could happen.

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  • Things don't happen without a reason, and time is fleeting even though it's infinite, you exist in a finite point in it, and as far as I know, there are no guarantees in our existences beyond existence.

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  • You can make no threatening if you ask him if he wants to study or something like that.. so you can get some alone time.

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  • dont wait:)

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  • yknow be likes you and would date you. question is what's stopping you from approaching him? r u not ready for a relationship?

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  • Invite him somewhere in a group setting and see what happens. That way it's less obvious

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  • Jade just approach me 😂💁🏻

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  • If you make yourself available for conversation he'll talk to you. If you ignore him or play hard to get he won't.

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  • I say wait until you know if you're really moving or not.

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  • If you don't someone else will, ooooooo!

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What Girls Said 4

  • If you're getting vibes that he likes you and not just going off what your friend is interpreting, I would go ahead and approach him.

    Maybe don't outright say you like him but like... invite him to do something so he knows you're interested in knowing him more than just at school.

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    • I do think so, the things he says/does and my step dad wouldn't go for that. That's why I want to tell him I like him and see if he steps up and asks me out on a date or something.

    • Ohh :/ hm.

      I mean it's worth a shot. And if it doesn't work out then you're moving anyways, right? Or potentially. So if things get sour after it... like if he doesn't take to you being forward... then you won't have to really hopefully see him for much longer.

      But that's also a downside if things go good, too.

    • Yea I know. I wanna try but I don't wanna try, for multiple reasons.

  • Or do What I do! Create rumors and than he will know! hahah! Make him worry a little!

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  • I know how you feel, it happened to me yesterday.
    I keep bouncing into this guy. He s been like in 3 parties I attended. I am usually pretty confident and approach people but he s too damn good looking and snobbish/poshy like that I didn t feel like taking the first step :p
    Look be sure first that you feel he likes you back, go out nore often with him and see how he reacts with you and all.
    If you feel there is smthng between you then open up about itm

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    • Plus aren t you moving or anthng?

    • we might not be moving and i can't go out with him outside of school unless he asks me on a date and even then I don't know

    • 😕
      When you re with him, does he stare and smile at you often? Does he message you often? Tries to touch you? Etc...

  • If he is worth it but no men are worth it. So wait

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