My amazing boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two months now. However he went home (across the other side of the country) for the holidays. He was gone for 16 days. While I went back home for the holidays I hooked up with a boy that I've had a thing with for the past 3 years. He was my grad date and one of my very good friends. We also have serious chemistry. Before me and my boyfriend started dating I knew me and the other guy would hook up. It wasn't planned, but was bound to happen. Turns out the sex was horrible because we were both so drunk. After that night I now know that I truly do love my boyfriend. And he's the one I want to be with forever. My boyfriend tells me he's so in love with me and I really wish I hadn't cheated on him. Do I tell him or keep it a secret because the hookup didn't mean anything. I've learned my lesson to not do it again, but I also think it has made me realize that I do love my boyfriend and nobody else.
Most Helpful Guy
Live with the guilt. Telling him will only hurt him and even if he doesn't break up with you will poison your relationship forever. Saying " the hookup didn't mean anything" really just makes it sound worse. It makes it sound like it takes nothing at all to make you cheat.
Anyone telling you to tell him, is just wanting to see you suffer for what you did, and is not thinking about what is best for either you, or your boyfriend. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss. These people telling you to tell him because "you will never feel right if you don't" are full of shit. First of all they don't really care about how you feel. Secondly hurting your boyfriend so that you can get over your quilt would be an extremely selfish thing to do. Right now you need to stop thinking about yourself, and think about what is best for your boyfriend. Do not tell him because it will only hurt him when there is no reason to hurt him other than your own selfish desires to get over your guilt.2
Most Helpful Girl
I won't be all judge mental like the rest of these people. Cheating is bad, nothing does justify it. Let me tell you a quick story... How you interpret it is up to you. So... I cheated on my boyfriend once. I was confused I didn't know if I loved him or not since I've never been in love or so intimate with someone. I hooked up with this guy. Then I realized something... The grass isn't always greener on the other side. I knew right there and then that I love my boyfriend and that I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. For a while I kept it to myself... But it was eating me up inside. So I told him. We broke up for a bit... He cried and was upset. But he loved me so much that he gave me another chance. Now... We've been together for two years. I haven't thought about cheating on him or anything. Temptation does cross my path but I have never cheated on him since that time. So I DON'T agree with the saying "Once a Cheater, Always a cheater" that's not always true. Its just an arrogant statement. However, their are people out there that do continue to cheat. Then, that saying is true. People don't understand and will judge you since they haven't been through it. Its better to tell him what happened... Theirs 50% chance he will break up with you but if he loves enough he might want to stay and work it out... That's what relationships are all about.1