For example, girls and guys who freak out over the number of sexual partners a potential datr has had.
I think it's stupid to be so hung up on something that really doesn't affect you at all. If your girlfriend or boyfriend had 1 sexual partner, or 20, in the years before you met, what real difference does it make, provided they have no STIs?
- It is pathetic, it doesn't matter to me29% (5)15% (2)23% (7)Vote
- I don't care one way or the other12% (2)8% (1)10% (3)Vote
- I'm insecure and find it disgusting12% (2)8% (1)10% (3)Vote
- Everyone with multiple partners is gross29% (5)62% (8)43% (13)Vote
- Other/results18% (3)7% (1)14% (4)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
It's not pathetic at all. Yeah I'm sure you wouldn't mind having a partner who has had lots of sex because you probably fucked half the football team. But when you've had 1 partner and your SO has had 20, it's not pathetic to be jealous and upset.
First off, if they get around that much you better believe that you aren't gonna be nearly as good as some of her previous partners. Then there's just the thought of her fucking all those other guys. Then there's the fact that she's more likely to cheat, that sex won't be as special, that you're probably sexually incompatable, that she could have an sti that she isn't aware of. Yeah, I'd say it's pretty reasonable to be upset about it, when promiscuity is a trait that you both don't share. I mean it isn't my place to tell a girl that she's a bad person for wanting to have sex with a lot of people, but that doesn't mean I have to accept it either. If you aren't even in the same ballpark, it's pretty damn reasonable to not be happy about it.
You do you, I'm not gonna tell you that you're shitty for liking sex. I will say that you're shitty for being judgmental for people having reasonable standards. It's easy to say that people shouldn't judge someone for xyz when you happen to be a person who can be categorized as xyz. But it isn't up to you to decide. You can try to make your point but the fact remains that you can't make unhealthy lifestyle choices that fall outside the norm and complain that people who don't identify with you are judgmental.
Personally, I'd be fine having sex on the first date if I liked a girl. But that's not the same as saying I'm okay with her having slept with half the town. Sex is great but you have to have some standards. Sleeping with tons of people is unhealthy and dangerous, even if you use protection.0
Most Helpful Girl
I legit don't care. I didn't even know them. Someone who tells you "I've only slept with 3 people" could have slept with 18. So I'd rather know the truth2