For example, girls and guys who freak out over the number of sexual partners a potential datr has had. I think it's stupid to be so hung up on something that really doesn't affect you at all. If your girlfriend or boyfriend had 1 sexual partner, or 20, in the years before you met, what real difference does it make, provided they have no STIs?
It's not pathetic at all. Yeah I'm sure you wouldn't mind having a partner who has had lots of sex because you probably fucked half the football team. But when you've had 1 partner and your SO has had 20, it's not pathetic to be jealous and upset.
First off, if they get around that much you better believe that you aren't gonna be nearly as good as some of her previous partners. Then there's just the thought of her fucking all those other guys. Then there's the fact that she's more likely to cheat, that sex won't be as special, that you're probably sexually incompatable, that she could have an sti that she isn't aware of. Yeah, I'd say it's pretty reasonable to be upset about it, when promiscuity is a trait that you both don't share. I mean it isn't my place to tell a girl that she's a bad person for wanting to have sex with a lot of people, but that doesn't mean I have to accept it either. If you aren't even in the same ballpark, it's pretty damn reasonable to not be happy about it.
You do you, I'm not gonna tell you that you're shitty for liking sex. I will say that you're shitty for being judgmental for people having reasonable standards. It's easy to say that people shouldn't judge someone for xyz when you happen to be a person who can be categorized as xyz. But it isn't up to you to decide. You can try to make your point but the fact remains that you can't make unhealthy lifestyle choices that fall outside the norm and complain that people who don't identify with you are judgmental.
Personally, I'd be fine having sex on the first date if I liked a girl. But that's not the same as saying I'm okay with her having slept with half the town. Sex is great but you have to have some standards. Sleeping with tons of people is unhealthy and dangerous, even if you use protection.
I think people can refuse to date someone based on whatever criteria they want to. Refusing to date someone based on their number of sexual partners is judging them based on a lifestyle choice, something they had control over. There is something called homosexual orientation and there is a correlation between promiscuity and infidelity. Also just like its people feel more comfortable with people who are from similar economic background and have similar levels of intelligence, people also tend to feel more comfortable with those who have similar views on sex and have had similar experiences. Its just another level of compatibility. You may not care but other people do, and they have ever right to. Just like promiscuous people shouldn't be shamed for sleeping around, other people shouldn't be shamed for not wanting to date them.
What I think it is really pathetic are the people who make a big deal about other peoples dating preferences.
if they go around just having sex with random people, they might do it cause they're sex addicts or because they cheat. i don't wanna be in a relationship with chicks who are attracted to everything that moves.
I'll tell you what is pathetic it's men and women who think they can behave however they like and everyone should accept it and not cast judgment. People like that are delusional idiots at best and disgusting and repugnant hypocrites at worst.
Newsflash - I don't sleep around and so I don't want a woman that has, if I met a woman who has I'll offer her the hand of friendship (no casual sex, just straight up friendship) and I'll find a woman that has the same view as I do.
I'm a high quality man who deserves a high quality woman! A woman that sleeps around is low quality and is beneath me.
STD's are a real concern and there are some diseases like Hepatitis that can also be spread through sexual contact and impossible to rule out without specific tests. Then comes the question why were they with so many? Similar to a bad job resume there must be a reason for that and I don't go glutton for punishment.
I am with the person I am with at present as I want to be with them, and intend to be with them for ever, I am not with the ones from before as they were not the person I am with now, does that sum it up
women with many partners are gross, not relationship material
yet another biased poll. if that's how u roll, and the past doesn't affect u at all, GOOD FOR YOU. No one is telling u to change your ways, so don't go calling anyone else insecure just because they care about the past. there's no logic there at all.
I think it's hard not to get upset because usually in a relationship you are in control of what may happen and the fact that you don't have any control over it may bug some people. I personally don't really care, at the end of the day those past experiences have made them the person they are today and it's okay that I can't control it but I hope that non of the negative experiences show in our present relationship-- like reconnecting with past flings etc. Because there isn't any point to that.
I don't think it's pathetic, of course history matters. It helps you understand the person they are today. Some people might not mind the number of sexual partners, some do. I'm a virgin so it's only natural for me to want someone on the same level, or around the same level, for our experience to bring him something new. Now of course it's not too smart to judge someone SOLELY on that. Their values might have changed with time, they might have matured, and in that case their past does not matter that much.
What are the ODDS of a slutty girl NOT having STD's?
Inb4 only girls who have a lot of sex partners are only capable of cheating in relationships Inb4 men can have sex with as many women but it's proven that women with multiple sex partners in the past cheat Inb4 lock and key analogy
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