we've been dating on and off for 5 years...when we first started dating he would invite me to go out with him and his friends...we only went out a few times... then after a while he stopped inviting me and then when it got to the point that it started bothering me a lot and I would ask him about it he would get p*ssed at me and tell me that it should be enough that he brings me around his family and that my priorities are all screwed up because going out with him and his friends is so important to me. It really bothers me and I can't help that , is there something wrong with my expectation of wanting to go out with him? ( o and I'm not talking about barging in on guys night out or anything... I barely know his friends and they barely know me)
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It's his friends, not yours. Don't try to smother him by taking away his "guy time". Does he ask to hang out with you and your girl friends?
Guys like to get away to be guys. To talk about hot girls, cars, motorcycles, and sports. If he's not cheating on you then you should get over it and enjoy the time that he's with his guy friends, you could be with your girl friends.
Freedom is nice. Couples should do things together but even when you're married you both need adequate time to yourselves. Some people want more than others and girls are usually the clingy ones. Don't force yourself into his circle of friends. The best thing to do is to invite him and his friends over for parties, game get togethers, cook outs, what ever.
If you're only wanting to spend time with him make plans, let him know, and I'm sure he'll be glad to attend as long as he doesn't have preset plans as well.
Don't try to remove him from his friends just so you can have more time with him. Just schedule things along side his friends. Make sure it is things that he will enjoy too.
I went through this same thing. I started out wrong by telling him that he's making me feel like crap by never inviting me places etc. I was over reacting. At any time I could have scheduled time for me and him to spend together but instead I was too busy complaining about him and his friends.
I wish you the best of luck!