Me and my girlfriend of 3 months recently got into our first fight, she got all emotional and send me a video message saying that she's in love with me. First time she'd ever said that was through a video message, do I have to say it back now? I acted like she never even said it cause I rather talk about it in person.
Dynamite blows shit up. If you use dynamite when you MEAN to use dynamite, you can build roads and tunnels and mountain passes and shit. If you use dynamite anywhere else, you just create pointless widespread destruction. You see where I goes, with this.
DO NOT say words like that, unless you mean them.
Think of it like one of those stupid payday loans. You borrow $300 now, you'll owe $1000 in a month. That what you want? Didn't think so.
It's an emotional payday loan.
You say "I love you" when you don't mean it, you may think you're buying yr way out of some kind of drama... But, boy, just you wait until you see the kind of delayed, high-interest drama yr buying yr way INTO.
You should never say "I love you" unless you feel that in your heart. If you say it and don't mean it, then at best, you are not being sincere and, at worst, you are a liar.
I recently told my girlfriend of 8 months that I love her. I knew that she would not say it back to me. I didn't say it because I needed her to parrot it back to me. I said it because I wanted to express what was in my heart.
When I said it, she responded, "I don't know what to say."
I replied, "Tell me that I am not an old fool for falling in love with you."
She said, "You are not an old fool and I feel very flattered by you saying that."
If and when she tells me that she loves me, I will know that she is saying it because she feels it in her heart and not because she feels pressured to respond.
Say it back if you really love her. If you don't then talk to her and say that it's too soon and that you don't want to say it until you mean it. Maybe she'll get pissed at first but she'll realize that it's better that you said it back when you felt it instead of lying to her face. She'll appreciate it later, trust me. If she doesn't, maybe she's not worth it.
okay... personally a video kinda freaks me out... but if you like this girl, why dont you say it back? the fact that you are wondering whether you should say it back kinda says that maybe you are not into her as much as she is into you. if that is the case, i think its best to end the relationship for you and for her.