I just read a pretty compelling mytake about this, I am introverted by nature, I naturally dont talk to people out of the blue, naturally dont initiate much socially, and am naturally better off when people talk to me first. If your a girl who is like this you are fine, guys will still come up to you, but as a guy girls kind of screw you over. Its either their way (ask them out) or the highway (stay single). For a while I thought about changing myself to be more extroverted, but I've realized that this is who I am, and girls might say "oh you are scared of asking us out, you need to fix it"... but to be honest, I dont need to fix anything, approaching people (guys or girls) isn't part of who I am, and I dont really want to change that. Girls always say "I want a guy with a great personality" and the advice they always give to get girls is "just be yourself"... well here I am wanting to be myself, and keeping my personality, and girls dont support that, whats the deal here do they really mean those things or are girls just being hypocrites? Why dont they ask guys out?
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think that you should use the excuse of "just being yourself." That is meant for when you are getting to know the person and you are allowing them to see the real you. I don't approach guys, but when they approach me, they can still be who they are. I don't ask guys out because I'm traditional like that. I'm a pretty extroverted person though. I don't have a problem talking to people and if I like someone I'll make it absolutely obvious I'm interested. I want them to be themselves, but I won't know what they're like if they don't approach me. You don't have to change yourself, but don't make excuses either.0
Most Helpful Guy
Look man, I understand where you are coming from. I'm the same way, I have never in my life just gone up to a girl I think is cute and had a conversation BC its scares me to death. and yeah the whole be yourself thing is a load of crap BC they want you to be yourself in the way so they like you... not necessarily who you are. And being born a male almost requires you to take initiative at everything. Girls love when men take what they want or at least strive to take it. I hate the hypocrisy too, but getting angry at women for something the majority of them won't change, isn't gonna do any good. So you either have to wait for the girl who will take the leap for you, which there are those girls, or you can learn to take initiative like I'm trying to do or stay single. Good luck0