My ex boyfriend was cheating on me , it was 7months ago but still i am thinking about it! We've been together for 4 years and i was really hurt and I became very insecure.
I tried to date some guys but i can't trust anyone , even if someone is nice to me , tells me compliments,, I suspect he is lying. I don't believe in myself anymore, i feel unattractive or that something is wrong with me - even if someone would tell me 10000 times that he likes me. In fact I am sometimes rude to guys - because i expect them to hurt me sooner or later so i keep them on distance, I am maybe just very afraid of getting hurt again.
But honestly I would like to date someone..
Is there anything I can do? Please help..
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Getting hurt comes with territory with relationships, but you have to ask yourself are you strong enough, and confident enough to handle it. Having a relationship with man or women, comes with a risk, and that's something you have accept.
When someone cheats on you, don't make the rest of the population paying for your boyfriends, bad behaviour. Trust is not so much about the other person, its about trusting yourself, in being handle what they do next, you have also got trust yourself in being handle their actions, if you can't trust yourself, it will be hard to trust others.
Don't give your power away, to your boyfriend, and say you can't trust another man again, because of he did.
Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks.
Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you.
Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.3
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