Was seeing a girl who told me sge liked me and was always messaging me and was happy. Said to hang out after exams and had invited me to things over Christmas and Nye. All of a sudden she said she just doesn't feel like talking in late Sept. She said however that I seriously didn't do anything. I tried to contact her every now and again untill Jan. Asked her if she was ok, if we are still seeing each other, merry Christmas etc. In total I probably sent about 15 messages or so. We are really good friends and have been seeing each other for a while with no problems. I have told her in the last message to contact when ready and will wait til March at least before trying again.
She told me she appreciates me, cares for me, likes hanging out and enjoys my company yet still hasn't said anything to ne despite telling me she want to be open and honest.
Is it too many messages for her to deal with? What should I do now? Also if she said that I seriously did nothing wrong 2 times why would you ignore me for so long? Does this indicate that she doesn't want to be friends or that she has too intense feelings for me?
I'm just trying to understand why you would not message. Even if you want to be alone or not social. Am I reading too much into this?
After how many messages does it get annoying to a girl?
What Girls Said 1
Honestly... I get bothered after 2 messages... But that's because of my past I guess so I'm not sure if it's normal? Because you are waiting for her are you missing out or passing up other opportunities? She doesn't sound interested but that's just my opinion from reading this. Try backing off... Like a rubber band maybe she will snap back? Or maybe talk to other girls. She may become jealous and see what a catch you are. If not, on the bright side you got to meet other girls and maybe will begin to fall for one of them instead.1
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What Guys Said 2
You need to forget her. She doesn't like you. She most likely moved on. I know this isn't something that you want to hear.
People are driven by emotionso. If she had intense feelings for you, she would reply right away (like what you would do). You probably didn't do anything wrong at all, she just doesn't have feelings for you anymore. Were you guys doing long distance? If she invited you to Christmas before Sept, and then changed her mind. She most likely met someone else. You will only keep annoying her to continue messaging her. Move on man.0
I was you a few years ago. Move on and better your life. Soon girls will come to you and you will realize that you have been chasing someone with a shit personality. Also going forward I try to avoid double texting let alone Tripple texting. Girls are animals just like us and typically want what they can't have/ or something that they need to work for.0
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