A guy asked me out today - he was black - but I turned him down because I personally prefer white guys. I didn't tell him that tho. I was polite enough to tell him that I'm just not in the dating scene at the moment. I have other things to worry about. He then started to get angry saying that I was a dumb white bitch, and that I am a racist.
Do you think I was racist or do you think he was just one of those guys who thinks he can get every girl, and found out he couldnt and it annoyed him?
Not being attracted to black guys doesn't make you racist. What about black people that aren't attracted to white people? Not being attracted to a certain race doesn't make you racist. It's not that you hate black people or have some sort of "moral" issue with it, you just don't find them attractive.
he probably would have understood if u told him the truth. but the racism in this country causes people to lie cuz they fear for their safety. If you're not prepared to lie, people will pick up on it------thats when you should be honest.
"Im not interested" should be your default line... cuz its truthful, and is universally applicable. "im not in the dating scene" would have me think to myself " wtf ------ scene?' tf kinda lie is that."
It depends. If you find the features on whitr people more attractive that black men but you wpuld date one you found attractive I would say there's no problem with preference. If you would never date any black man that's more worrying. As for him he sounds like a little crybaby who hates rejection. His ego is so large so he resorts calling you racist.
It's only racist if you refuse to date all white and no non whites. It's true we have our preferences but there will always be people you're attracted to regardless of race and those you aren't attracted to even if they are white which you've stated is your main preference.
Racist just doesn't come down to dating certain colours. I wonder why you even brought this up in a forum unless you are feeling guilty for some reason or trying to start a race bait thread to show how black guys are 'racist'.
No I don't think that you are a racist, you were just being yourself and as far as i know there is nothing wrong with being who you are. you are entitled to you opnions, which are subject. People have preferances which are subjective. I think he was more arrogant and did not think about your feeling by being hateful. Girl you don't have to feel bad about it, you are fine and this is coming from a non- white person.