I don't understand why a guy would spend the whole night talking with me and having a good time only to dissappear when he doesn't get laid immediately. Was he just faking it? Was he just pretending to be interested only to get into my pants? We talked about interesting and meaningfull things, like our jobs, dreams, aims in life, activism, family... just about any subject that would be considered "deep"... so why didn't I hear from him again? It puzzles me that people can be so deceiving and false and dismiss another person so quicky
He probably was only out looking for one thing. Hey sometimes men have to deploy their dirty tactics in order to get laid. It's a whole lot easier for a woman (who is out for sex) to ask the man without the mind games we have to go through. "Hey, wanna get out here?" Bingo, woman is DTF!
Did you guys make out? Have you notice a tan line on his ring finger? Intimately close (lover's embrace, holding your hand, or whatever you might consider intimate)
Time flies when you're having a great time, especially when you're interested in that person. Question is, was he? Did he say anything that hinted, "Please be mine." Who knows, maybe he likes the company of a great conversationalist and you were the perfect distraction he needed from whatever is troubling him that he hadn't disclosed?
Many factors can be played out in your given situation. This is just a couple of those possibilities to your question.
I bet he's sleeping with someone else or cold be sleeping with someone else... you're not better than that girl, but he would have kept seeing you if you slept with him. By not sleeping with him, he takes it that you want something more serious, and he probably doesn't want that with you. Only thing I could come up with.
I would like to know the same question but she wanted to have sex but we had a lot of alcohol and had great conversations and never heard from her again after I thought it was best not as I did not want to take advantage of her.
Perhaps he simply wanted to talk without any romantic nor sexual intention, maybe?