From my experience it is seen as a given and never gets discussed or reassured. Being pretty is subjective and we all have our down days. I only need to hear it once but it seems most men will never say it.
I eventually leave because I get no support or encouragement. I give plenty of it though and I don't date hot guys. I just feel like these guys don't really like me and are wasting my time.
I have have a pretty face and nice body. I have good skin and still get carded all the time. My ex boyfriends will comment on when I wear a slinky dress and heels very positively but in my city we don't often dress that way.
Mean while very good looking male colleagues make innocent comments when they over hear my conversations about wearing different make up as I get older saying I don't need it and it will ruin my skin.
I get hit on at the grocery store, park, gym whereever by good looking men.
But it boyfriends never tell me I'm pretty or that they like my body. What am I doing wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
I think my girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous, and I frequently tell her so. I want her to know that I find her attractive.
I don't tell her so much that she gets sick of it, but I routinely compliment her hair, or her outfit, telling her that it compliments her natural beauty.
If she's wearing a pair a pants that I like, I will comment of how fantastic her ass looks. She knows I appreciate her for much more than her body, but Iconsider myself lucky, for having such a beautiful girlfriend, and I would never want her to think that I take her for granted.
She looks amazing, and I want her to know that I appreciate the effort she puts into looking that good, even if she's doing it for her own self-image, rather than my benefit. I still like the result.1
Most Helpful Girl
I've had a... something with someone for the past year. And at the beginning he would call me beautiful, etc. and I liked it a lot. It made me feel good, reassured me he still found me attractive.
Now? Now all I get is a "that was sexy" after I've sent him a picture / video or if I say something about being uncertain on how I look he just says "I'd still pound it."
... like no. that's not what I want to hear. I want more of the "you have a beautiful face. even at your worst, you're still pretty." he gave me towards the beginning of our... whatever.
But I don't think I'll ever get that again, so I'll just be perpetually insecure that he doesn't find me attractive anymore. 'cause contrary to what he may believe, showing me he's hard via me doesn't really constitute as a worthy compliment.1