My boyfriend is very stressed. With college, work, and a mother that treats him like shit. He is starting to lose his faith in his own abilities and even admitted he does not love himself. He loves me dearly and I love him too and try to remind him how great he is.
So can i love someone who dosent love himself? Should I?
I have respect for you for staying by his side. I was down in a hole mentally for the first 6 months after my father's death, and I now realize how draining I was negatively on the energy of those close to me.
You can definitely love him, though also you need to be aware that your needs have to be met too. If his issues start rubbing off on you, definitely re-consider your position. Also he needs to take steps to help himself. If he is not improving, you don't want to be in the same position years down the track.
Harsh advice, but from what I went through myself, honest
The thing is you can physically love someone, because you can see all the wonderful things they don't but they can't love you the same back if they don't love themselves. things like this never work it always causes issues. people shouldn't enter relationships when they have demons with their own lives. both parties should enter a partnership because they've both built great lives and now they wanna share it.
When I first met my girlfriend I didn't know it but she hated herself and cut and was suicidal, but I eventually helped her love herself, and when she was better she told me that she used to cut and stuff. I think it's better because if you help him/her then your bond will be stronger and they will love you in a greater depth.
Technically you can, the stresses of them not being able to appreciate themselves as much as you do and constantly down on themselves can a downfall in the relationship, solely because you will feel your words are starting to become useless, after repeating and repeating.
I couldn't do that. I would have no interest in being with someone that doesn't love themselves. I think that they would be rather annoyed or resentful towards me eventually - I don't make any secret that I am in love with myself.
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