I was having a conversation with my mom and she was talking about how as u get older what u want in a man changes. She said, "What u want at 16, isn't what u want at 20 & what u want at 20 isn't what u want at 30 or 40?"
Which makes since cuz as we get older we grow and change. We act & think differently, we want different things for ourselves, such as in careers, hobbies, relationships, & etc.
Do you think your preference in Girls or Guys has changed since you've gotten older? I'm not just talking about looks, I'm saying qualities & personality traits as well. :)
If anything I probably want a submissive woman more now then when i was young and couldn't handle the responsibility of being dominant. But that's not so much a change in what i want as what i was comfortable with.
Beyond that? I had really low standards when young, because i had so little dating experience, who was i to say 'no' to any girl who was sort of cute and liked me? I didn't realize how many girls would like me (not most, but a small percent of the billions out there ;) ) and that i should be saying no and looking for the things i wanted, and -expecting them-.
Not really. Only things that have changed at my age is I'm fine with it if she has kids, and women aren't wine. They don't get better looking with age, so my standards are slightly lower, but still high for my age.
Not really, no. Even as a teenager I liked smart, kind girls; girls who were sweet but also had some crazy buried somewhere in there. LOL
As for physical tastes, I can honestly say that I've never had much of a type, so there's not much room for evolution there. I've always generally liked brunettes or dark hair, shorter than 6', lively feminine voices, and nice eyebrows.
Unless you're one of those people who never grow up, your tastes change a lot. I used to be attracted to super feminine girls with all the drama and emotionality and cuteness concerns. As an older adult I am more attracted to intelligent thoughful women. My physical tastes have changed too of course.
I guess so. I don't recall ever thinking too hard about relationships until my first sexual partner so I guess those people who I had relationships with were just people with whom they worked with at the time. Recently, due to more and different experiences, I've become clearer in what core things I am looking for in a partner. Looks are not as important as inward qualities but I don't disregard them either. Inwards>Outwards. That's something that's become clearer for me over time.
Very much so. When I was younger I was very idealistic, and wanted to find a nice girl and settle down get married and have kids. Now that I am older I have seen more and I have realized that that kind of thing really isn't for me and I don't want to get married or have kids and I am more interested in a companion to have fun with and go on trips without ever really giving up my independent lifestyle.
Yeah when I was like a middle schooler I wanted the stereotypical big boobs, small waist, big ass girls. Then once outta HS I liked redheads the most. Now? Now I don't think I really have any strict preferences.
The more relationship experience I have, and the more I learn about myself and grow, the more I realize what I actually want in a long term partner.
Some things I value now that I've gotten older: - someone who shares the same goals in life as me (having our own careers, marriage, starting a family, etc.) - someone who does not smoke - someone who has the same sense of humor as me (it's so important to be able to laugh with each other!) - someone who has at least some of the same interests as me - someone who is loyal, caring, and affectionate - and, most importantly, someone who I could be best friends with
When I was in high school, I couldn't care less about a guy's long-term goals in life or his drug use.
Ok, so I started scrawling notebooks full of lurid salacious filthy fantasy stories when I was about 10 or 11. Over the years, I filled a whole big pile of them. Gave 'em all to my husband, once he put that ring on me.
Just looked through one of the earliest ones, from when I was 11 years old...
... Nope. Exactly the same. Like, totally exactly the same. Except now my fantasy man has very specific physical features, since I see him every day of my life. (The male anti-hero in my stories typically has a body -- and oh, what a body -- and eyes, but not much of a defined face beyond that.)
Yes. They have changed drastically. When I was about 15 1/2 I use to like those guys who were bad asses. Liked to hang out and do illegal shit and was really popular in our neighborhood for being a juvenile delinquent. When I was 18 I wanted a guy who would take me to dances and show me off like a shiny new toy. Kind of something like those relationship goal memes on social media. Now, at 20, I want a man who has long and short term goals. A nice life plan for himself, very independent and well mannered. Someone I can have an intellectual conversation.
What I wanted at 16 was someone that made me feel pretty and mature.
What I wanted at 18 was someone who valued fun and taking it easy.
What I wanted at 20 was someone I could at least imagine myself having a future with.
What I want now is someone that I can live with, rather than take care of. A man that can pull his weight, looks forward rather than back and is ready to buckle down and sacrifice if the time calls for it. Emotional stability, a good head on his shoulders. Caring, understanding. Now I'm just describing my man.