I'll be 25 this year and have never been in a serious relationship. My longest relationship was 9 months when I was 19 and the guy was 17 and still in hs. I've tried putting myself out there, not doing anything and letting guys find me, meeting guys in bars, in school (before I graduated) and yet here I am, alone. I'm at the age now where all of my friends are in serious relationships or getting married if they haven't already. I'm really starting to think that I might just be one of those people who never find anyone. Which really upsets me. I'm educated, pretty, I have a career in social work, independent. According to this site no guy is really going to be interested in me because I'm black and a single mom. A friend told me I just need to focus on myself and my kid. Which is fine but that eliminates the chances of me meeting anyone bc my days are work then home. I work in a female dominated profession so meeting someone at work is highly unlikely. Should I just finally give up and accept a life of being single?
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No never you are pretty and intelligent. I have read many of your posts , they are articulate and show a good level of communication. The things that you feel are holding you back are actually strengths. A single mum who works hard shows commitment, compassion and maternal care. As for you your colour many men find that exotic. Please don't give up the right man will come along , there's always someone out there for all of us.
Iam all ways happy to chat please feel free to message me any time you like. I'd like to follow you if it's ok with you?1
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Agree with TripleAce... not trying to be presmistic. i became a single mom 3 years. ago and started to date after a yr. of separting from my ex. he had since gone through 3 women becaure the true is, he (some men) become more mature and financially secured. as they age, their options are greater. most women goes for single fathers with money. i on the other hand, with 2 little kids, have asked this question on GAG... sure i am still hot (i also have money) but what else can i offer but baggages. guys have commented that, we are good for one thing.
you are younger than me, your options are a bit better. take care of yourself and your child. be cautious of the men you introduce to your child.
i am also in a predominate female work place (99% female). i do not want to meet men at work to begin with. the saying goes, you don't want to mix work with your private life.
i do have a boyfriend now, but, he too have a lot of issues. i can move on and find other men with issues or just work with this one.
I wish you the best.0